A little help

I had been dating a girl for a year when she had her first psychotic break and was diagnosed with bi polar 1. She went into treatment and several days after she got out We seperated. It was alot for me to handle and i thought that giving her time to focus on herself was the right thing to do. Her and I are both addicts in recover and I really took on what was happening to her, I co dependently wanted to fix her and I drove myself crazy. We are now broken up and I guess I have some guilt that I didn't stick by her. I felt like she was really looking to me for alot of help and I just didn't know what to do. I felt like I was beginning to force the relationship. If anyone can relate or has been through a similar situation and can give me some Feedback id appreciate it. Sometimes I feel alone or like no one understands me, the mental twist of being an addict. I have had my struggles in life and was put on every ADD/ADHD medicine you could list. I also have been on depressive/anxiety meds and was a self muitlator. I have recovered and currently not on any meds or active in unhealthy behavior. But when this happened I found myself looking for relief and my way of relief is not the healthiest solutions. Just wanted to get this off my chest any help would be appreciated.

I really feel like your post is an honest, clear, and insightful look at the whole situation. The way you handled it is very likely best. I know you feel a little guilt, but you both have to take care of yourselves before you can take care of each other. You recognizing the co-dependency thing is a huge step, and you did the right thing. That doesn't mean you can't be there for her as a friend, if she'll have you as a friend. I don't know how long ago this happened, but maybe you could check in on her and see how she is doing and if she needs a friend to talk to you can be there for her in that role, as a friend.

It was a couple of weeks ago. I have state clearly to her that I will always be here for her if she ever wanted to talk. Unfortunately, when I ended the Dating aspect of the relationship she said some thing to me that were hurtful and not true. I hate the way that it ended because I had alot of fun with her and really care about her. I just didn't see it going much further. Thanks for the response.