[roxyanne1]

How often do i want to talk to my children over the phone as they live a fair way away from me, and all i come away with is pain....they dont seem to want to share their lives...my life....so i can hear and tell...sorry forget the words to say, but after ive talked to them i just want to cry. I listen to their lives as i should and am glad to do but they dont seem to want to know whats going on in mine.I live alone and need them, but they are not there for me. Mabey this is just empty nest syndrome...if so it is b##### painful. Does anyone else have a similar problem with their kids....if so love to hear your story,
Roxyanne1

How old are your children? I think most young adults forget that there's anything else going on in the world other than their own lives... Children are pretty selfish really, and I think most take their parents for granted.. seems to be the way anyway.

I know it's painful, but now they've flown the nest, it's time to think of yourself. This is your time now! Have a second childhood yourself, get out and about, do things, have fun. Explore the world even?! Enjoy not being tied down to washing, school-runs, worrying all the time about them, etc. If they want to live their lives their way (which there's nothing wrong with that) then you live your life your way! If you need some support, have you friends you can talk to? Or if uncomfortable with that and things are more serious, perhaps think of seeing a therapist? I know it can be a bitter pill to swallow when family are not there for us, but it means that we have to find other ways to get the support we need. We can't make family be who we want them to be..

Hugs.

I haven't experienced your situation but wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you. Take care.

[poptart316]

I can relate, but in the opposite way... my mom has been very distant my entire life, she's always been caught up in her marriages/marriage problems and left me to be raised by my grandparents and the only time she was a "mother" to me was during holidays and birthdays.. she's never shown much of in interest in me or my life, I think she loves me in her way, we've just never bonded or formed a healthy mother-daughter relationship and I think it's too late to do that now, esp since she's moving back to Florida to live with her abusive husband which I'm really angry about. It really hurts me though.. I hear about the relationships that people have with their mothers, the bond they have and it seems so beautiful. I feel like I'm missing out. I do have my grandma though, she's been like a mother to me.

[Dionysius]

Originally Posted by poptart316

I can relate, but in the opposite way... my mom has been very distant my entire life, she's always been caught up in her marriages/marriage problems and left me to be raised by my grandparents and the only time she was a "mother" to me was during holidays and birthdays.. she's never shown much of in interest in me or my life, I think she loves me in her way, we've just never bonded or formed a healthy mother-daughter relationship and I think it's too late to do that now, esp since she's moving back to Florida to live with her abusive husband which I'm really angry about. It really hurts me though.. I hear about the relationships that people have with their mothers, the bond they have and it seems so beautiful. I feel like I'm missing out. I do have my grandma though, she's been like a mother to me.

Sadly, poptart, children being rejected by their mother is becoming more prevalent, if it isn`t men they are rejected for, it is drugs, I think people are horrible to each other. Hope you feel better soon, regards Dionysius.