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I cannot talk to my mother at all she is very mean, cruel, and evil to me.She is a MAJOR TRIGGER to all my mental illnesses. It is sad but true.I live 10min from her and I was directed by my T to stay far away from her. I think the things she has done to me emotionally has a HUGE impact on my adult life.I have to seek my T as a "mother like figure". How does a person cope with this?

Hello there
Am sorry that you've such a person for a mother.. Sounds like you're one of the unlucky ones. Not everyone should be a parent, and when a mum isn't what she should be it's probably one of the hardest things to accept.

And accept is what you've got to do am afraid. Accept that she's not well herself (being evil, cruel and mean to a daughter isn't what I call normal), accept that she probably will never change and you cannot change her, but the biggest thing of all, you need to accept that none of this is your fault.

I am a firm believer of being responsible for our own lives, and this is one of those times - she makes you feel awful, is a trigger to you, so you should be looking after yourself now. Do whatever it is to keep yourself on a more even keel, and making your own life happier. If that means letting her go, then do it. It's probably one of the most emotionally hard things to do is letting go of a parent, but the disappointment & hurt does calm down over time. It'll never leave you completely, but you'll learn to live without her, and without her negative influence, you'll live better.

Big hugs to you.

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She is sick and will not seek any meds or therapy. I had her come with me one time to my PTSD T after she had told me to go kill myself. the session went horrible....My mom tried to play this fake role that it is all me, I am a liar, and blamed me for EVERYTHING! My T stood up for me the whole session. I went and saw my T the week after and my T was like "WOW your mom is very cold"! And advised me to stay AWAY from her.

I did what I could I tried reaching out to her at first for moral support of my 6 diagnosis after car accident. She has helped me greatly with providing my daughter a safe place to live. Now my daughter is with her and I can just imagine what my daughter feels like. My T said to keep my daughter there until I get back to progress because this last week is living HELL!

I have got my medical records and M.D.s are telling me one thing and doing another. I am trying to sort out my life with medical records.I am needing to go stay with my sister for the weekend to help me.All my siblings are older than me and the know that my mom treats me the worst and that she is manipulative very much. I go to T again Monday and see her 2 times a week.

I am sooooooo ready for years now to get my mother out of my life. I was abandoned by my father most of my life...we have no relationship but my other siblings do!I hope for inner peace soon.

Sounds like you've got a good plan going with working on yourself first and foremost :-) Good luck with therapy, and I hope you continue to grow stronger over this - and I hope you get your inner peace too, and I don't doubt you will.

Hugs!

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I am happy to say that..... I am happy I do not have to deal with my mother emotionally abusing me and manipulating me!!It has been a week now and I feel improvements already.I had laid down boundaries for my teen daughter that consist of she comes stay with me every other day until school starts next month than she will be with me threw the week and get to go to her grandmas on weekends.

She has followed these directions and we are starting to bond again.Tomorrow she starts with a T by herself while I go to my T in same counseling group!This is a HUGE step because before my mom would know I had made a T apt and she would take my daughter to the mall or something when she knew I made this T apt....My mother says to me all the time do not go to T's, do not listen to them etc. In reality my T has helped me stay alive threw REALLY HARD TIMES!

I told my mom we can start talking again once she starts therapy because she needs it BAD!So we will see....If not I am fine with my life being without my TOXIC MOTHER.

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We still are not talking.I have been happier but at the same time slightly sad because I cannot do ANY family activities