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Old Aug 06, 2013, 09:58 PM
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I can't stop thinking about my ex. Its not that I haven't dated more guys after him. I just always think about him. I am trying not to, but I can't stop thinking about how he took care of me. I don't know how to stop thinking about him. He moved away. We are not getting back together.

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Old Aug 06, 2013, 10:59 PM
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It's hard to move on sometimes. Based on your Thread I am not certain who ended the relationship or if it was a mutual decision. I read once that writing that person a goodbye letter.. not to send to him but to put closure on it for you.

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Old Aug 07, 2013, 09:15 AM
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How long has it been since you broke up?

I have a very good friend. He and I had a very hot relationship that lasted for many, many years. We still felt strongly for each other but he moved far away and we had to break up. It was really hard at first but as time passed I got used to him not being around. I still think of him often decades later. Thinking of him still puts a smile on my face and I get a little sad but the good memories are stronger than the sadness. Give yourself time. You will develop new relationships and find someone else. Just be glad that you were together as long as you were and remember the good times.
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Old Aug 08, 2013, 02:16 PM
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It hurts now but maybe it was meant to be this way? Who ended it?
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Old Aug 08, 2013, 06:29 PM
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I can't stop thinking about my ex. Its not that I haven't dated more guys after him. I just always think about him. I am trying not to, but I can't stop thinking about how he took care of me. I don't know how to stop thinking about him. He moved away. We are not getting back together.
the bold part is good - it means that there are specific, positive things that a man can do for you that you like. Maybe another man in the future would fit the bill? who knows?

If you take Christina's suggestion to draft a letter but not send it, you can verbalize what exactly you liked about how this man took care of you. That might even help in future relationships!!
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Old Aug 08, 2013, 08:12 PM
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He sort of ended it, but got back together every once in a while. I still think about him. I don't want to. I want to be focused on something or someone new. But they don't compare. I really hope to find someone that will make me forget about him, but he is such a rare person. I think I will always love him. He makes me angry but I will always love him and he loves me. It's just hard.
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Old Aug 08, 2013, 09:29 PM
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I would take the positives of how you felt about the person he was and try and apply that moving forward. I know it's hard to find someone to compare when you know you've has something good-but you know what Is good and can grow from that. Keep your heart open to finding those qualities you are looking for in the person that Will be in your future, not just a part of your past. It will get easier with time. This I know from experience.
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Old Aug 09, 2013, 07:44 AM
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You shared something special and now it's over but that does not mean you will not find someone with similar qualities. I had my heart broken once at it still hurts to this day (been 10 years) but I was able to move forward and so will you. Hang in there
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