feel guilty

My boyfriend and I broke up recently and during the time apart I slept
With two people. I felt extremely guilty and dirty afterwards and then
Ended up going back with my ex. He found out about me and one
Of the guys and got so angry at me. He doesn't seem to be able
To get over this but I completely understand why. I'm so mad at myself for
Doing these things but it meant nothing and I want to forget it even happened.
I didn't tell him about the other guy but I know its only a matter of
Time before he finds out. I just don't want him to think of me as another
Girl who sleeps around. Its not who I am and I just want to move on.
I know telling him will only drive us further apart though. What should I do?

Tell him - if he finds out about the second guy, nothing would stop him from thinking that there were 10 more guys about whom he is yet to find out in due course. If you tell him, at least he'd know that there were only two guys involved. Two guys is not enough for the label of "another
Girl who sleeps around" - it is sort of on the way there, in that direction, but not quite there yet.

But more importantly, you need to stress that you did not deceive him - you slept with those two guys during the breakup. You had no duty to the boyfriend at that time, so the guilt feelings are not called for and are counterproductive. So he should not be angry at you.

Also, you are conflating two very different things.

Sleeping with guys is not something that should make you feel guilty and dirty. Sleeping with guys is not dirty by itself - it is just one of the ways to spend time together. Why guilt?

Deception (if you were sleeping with these guys behind his back while telling him that you weren't) would qualify as a reason to feel guilty, but you did not deceive him.

Maybe he is mad because he missed his chance to have sex with other women. Now it would be cheating on you. I think he is more frustrated than angry, so he is choosing to take the pleasure out of it for you. And given such a level of insecurity, he may be wondering if the other guy was better than him or more well endowed physically. Never mind that you took him back. You chose him.

Oh yeah! Capitalize on that! "Dude, what is up with you - I chose you and you are unhappy??"

How much time apart was there between your now current but then ex and the 2 guys? That might be the reason he's having trouble with it and I agree it still about self esteem. I mean, if it was only a week or a couple days, he may feel he wasn't important enough to grieve over the loss of the relationship...you were ready to move on immediately. And sorry, anything shorter than a month is 'immediately' to a guy. Even then, it would be 'too soon'...unless of course, he was doing it. (equal opportunity: women feel the same way about ex's...I do at least)

It's still about his insecurity of course, so yes, be understanding. But at the end of the day, you two were NOT TOGETHER; however, while that tastes like justification at first bite...you'll find actually swallowing it to be a lot tougher. I agree..tell him about the second guy. And absolutely remind him, you chose him...do NOT say you feel guilty or dirty. It happened because he was not with you. Period. Too much explanation sounds like guilt and with that little brick he'll build an entire city of jealousy and supposition.

After you've told him, you might suggest couples counselling if you still feel he's having trouble...sounds like getting back together didn't fix the original issue...at any rate...couldn't hurt