[xzavier1234]

I'm in a long distance relationship with my 6 month long boyfriend. He was PERFECT. and i mean perfect. he was a total gentelman. I trusted him (and him being the first guy i trusted), and the other day I couldnt sleep so i was going to use his ipod to play games because he was asleep. I unlocked his ipod and facebook messages came up. Remember I wouldnt snoop I TRUSTED him completely. Well what I read was heartbreaking. He was talking to his ex about how they were once engaged and she had asked if they would never have broken up if they would be engaged right now. he said "yes definitly". and then i read further into it. he had said he wanted to kiss her and then found out behind my back he got her a job at his work when he had told me he got a "good friend" a job. and then he was also hanging out with her behind my back. I confronted him and we have had a mess of problems. I dont know what to do or say. he lives two hours away and we have only been in a long distance thing for a little over two weeks. he says he is going to drop her and fight for my trust back. but i don't know D':

[kirby777]

Originally Posted by xzavier1234

I'm in a long distance relationship with my 6 month long boyfriend. He was PERFECT. and i mean perfect. he was a total gentelman. I trusted him (and him being the first guy i trusted), and the other day I couldnt sleep so i was going to use his ipod to play games because he was asleep. I unlocked his ipod and facebook messages came up. Remember I wouldnt snoop I TRUSTED him completely. Well what I read was heartbreaking. He was talking to his ex about how they were once engaged and she had asked if they would never have broken up if they would be engaged right now. he said "yes definitly". and then i read further into it. he had said he wanted to kiss her and then found out behind my back he got her a job at his work when he had told me he got a "good friend" a job. and then he was also hanging out with her behind my back. I confronted him and we have had a mess of problems. I dont know what to do or say. he lives two hours away and we have only been in a long distance thing for a little over two weeks. he says he is going to drop her and fight for my trust back. but i don't know D':

Xzavier,

It really S*CKS to see those unexpected emails or texts. BTDT. How long was your BF w/ his ex?? Why did they break up? I was dating domeone for a long, long time..he bought an enagagement ring, we planned the wedding...he never asked me to marry him...he cheated on me & fell ib love w. someone else...He said he would have never done this if we had been engaged...

I do not like the fact he avoided the COMPLETE truth by saying he got a freind a job. To me it is a red flag, but I am much older than you.

Good Luck.

[gayleggg]

I would be very hesitant to be relieved by his answers if he is working with his ex after getting her a job. That would put them together everyday, not a good idea.

I think his text messages speak for themselves. He is interested in his ex. I would be very careful believing what he tells you. Sometimes ex's are hard to get over.
Gayle

[Odee]

He's obviously not over her and I think 6 months with you is not going to wash away those old feelings. I am sorry, but this relationship started out with lying and cheats and will probably end that way. He may seem perfect, but I think with him you are vulnerable to more of a broken heart. I think it's best to cut ties.

[turquoisesea]

I agree.. maybe my person experience has tainted my view on this, but he's cheating. End of story. no he hasn't necessarily made out with her etc, but he's been emotionally cheating on you imo.

Cheating stems from a serious problem... it sound to me that the problem is his... that somethings not right. If you choose to ignore it, from my personal experience those things tend to get worse and worse.

I don't know how long you two have been together, or how long the ex and him had been together, but if they're working together (not sure if this is the case)... I'd definitely try to get out of the situation, even if it hurts. Ask yourself, can you really trust him? What steps would have have to take? Would he be willing to cut his ex completely out of his life for you? just some thoughts...

[xzavier1234]

yeah. well I guess the story of those two was they broke up, he waited for her, she never came around, and had sex with other guys, and thats when he was all into me. she then told him sorry and he thought they could be friends.
I've been cheated on by so many guys and i thought his morals were diffrent. I know he still has feelings because he even said he was trying to move on. and she works nights and he is about to be manager making it so if he even talks to her he will be fired. they were going to be engaged.
I just want him to fight for me like im fighting for him. I dont know how to tell him im serious or make it so this isnt okay. Im just tired of being hurt. and he broke my heart. but im so in love with this kid i could marry him tomorrow.

[xzavier1234]

plus i forced him to tell his mormon parents that we have fooled around and that he doesnt believe in the church anymore. all of which stems from the fact his parents hate me because i am not mormon. I didnt want him to tell them that, i just wanted them to know it wasnt my fault that he didnt. I don't want to be blamed for it and i want him to stick up for me.