[bluegirl007]

i met my soon to be ex off match.com...he painted himself as this wonderful, Christian man of God who was lonely and needed someone in his life...boy did i catch a catfish...nothing was further from the truth...was banging exes, friends with benefits, coworkers, running partners, you name it, matter fact lonely is the last thing he was...just relationships today weren't reduced to people hiding behind computers, perhaps had i not met my ex off match maybe i wouldn't have invested so much time getting to know him and developing a strong like before getting to know who he truly was.

[gayleggg]

I truly believe that more hearts are broken because of match.com and other such sites than if the met the person naturally. No matter how you meet someone you need to do your research. Unfortunatly a lot of people lie rather than tell the truth about themselves. All to make themselves look good. Getting to really know someone really takes time to see if they are really who they say they are.

[Perna]

I remember growing up in the 50's and 60's my stepmother's expectation that we be "introduced" by friends and family to people we dated. My oldest brother's 2nd wife, he met beside the pool at their apartment complex and my stepmother was disappointed He's on wife 4 now, a definite keeper.

[casurfer]

When you meet the next guy, take your time to get to know him before you get too physical. Guys who "play" won't usually wait around, so you'll weed through them quickly... any guy who really wants to date you for you, will be patient and will enjoy getting to know you for you. Keep a little mystery, make him work for it... your relationship will be stronger. If they bail because you're playing a little bit hard to get, the good riddance.....

[JadeAmethyst]

I am sorry this happened to you. The internet is a good tool, but face to face is proof of your true heart's desire.

good luck to you
Jade

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by bluegirl007

i met my soon to be ex off match.com...he painted himself as this wonderful, Christian man of God who was lonely and needed someone in his life...boy did i catch a catfish

I am not familiar with match.com but I am familiar with OKC and I have read a few profiles to get an impression of what is out there.

I think you needed to be suspicious of this kind of an "ad". Go for people who write interesting things about themselves, report doing something worthwhile with their lives, and do not advertise their neediness. Don't go for men who advertise neediness - go for men whose profiles paint them as accomplished individuals who are NOT lonely, who are NOT "needing someone" (because you do not want to be a random "someone" who plugs a hole called "his being lonely" - you want to be you!!!), but who are already content, already successful, etc. - in other words, men who are already OK and who want MORE from life.

Then you'd not need to suffer so much.