[dolphinlover8]

Lately I have been having really bad arguments with my moms boyfriend. He yells at me. I told him last night that he isn't my dad so he shouldn't be talking to me like that. His response to that was no s*** and continued yelling at me and said I can't see my therapist anymore or do therapy(I just got back from seeing my therapist that's why) I then said that he has no right to talk to me like that and he said f*** you. I went over my grandmothers crying after that. Everything was ok today until later today and he started yelling at me AGAIN. I left and told him he can't talk to me like that and this is why I always leave and don't want to live here anymore. When i came back I talked to my mom and she said i can go live with my father if I think it's better and said a lot of other things. She doesn't care if I move out. If I were to move out to my grandmothers or dads it would be interesting to see what she would do, Pick her boyfriend or her daughter and how fast that desision would be made. Well it just says right there if she is telling me to move out that she would put her boyfriend over her ONLY kid. I don't feel loved by her. She puts her boyfriend before me and he is more important to her than me and she loves him more than me. I don't know what to do. I hate living with her boyfriend.

[Yoda]

wow that really sucks big time. I can see that you would feel angry at your mom for not being more supportive. Maybe she isn't capable of helping the way you need. Perhaps it would be best for you to move out. Have you talked to your dad or your grandmother about wanting to move out yet?

[dolphinlover8]

I have taked to my grandmother. She doesn't seem to mind if I stay with her. Her house is already like a second house to me right now anyway but I'm not sure if I'm just ready to move. I never moved in my life so it would be very hard and different to do so. Last night my mom was mad at me for going over to my grandmothers house and telling her what is going on. Now I feel like I can't go talk to my grandmother because every time I do my mom gets mad and doesn't want my grandmother to know what's going on.
Moving in with my dad would be very hard. I'm not sure if I can do that. Ever since my parents got a divorced he has been struggling a lot with depression. He has been in and out of hospitals and everything. I just don't think I can live being around someone who is so sad but I do still see him.
I feel like I have no one to turn to. My mom is telling me she doesn't want me telling my grandmother what's going on and her boyfriend is telling me I can't go see my therapist anymore. I have to hide this whole thing from my dads side of the family. My dad doesn't even know her boyfriend is living with me and I think if he knew that then I wouldn't be able to live with my mom anymore. I just really don't know what to do.

[gayleggg]

I can understand how it would be hard to make a move and leave your mom, even though, you aren't getting along great with her for now. Is the boyfriend paying for your therapy? The decision of whether or not you see a therapist should be your mother's decision. Maybe you could talk to a school counselor. Seeing your dad being depressed has to be hard as well. I'm glad you have you grandmother, even if you can't tell her everything, you do have a safe place to go. Wishing you the best.

[dolphinlover8]

My mom is the one that is paying for my therapy. I think I might ask my dad is bring me to therapy from now on but again I have to hide the reason why I want him to take me from now on. For some reason her boyfriend never thought I needed therapy and now he doesn't even want me to go. School is starting soon and it's just a bad time for all of this to be going on. I honestly don't even know where the school counselor is or who to ask. I would be afraid that my mom would find out I went to the school counselor but thanks for the support!

[lynn P.]

Sorry you're in this tough situation ((dolphinlover8)). Are you still a minor and is your dad paying child support? I really think you should move in with your grandmother and if there's child support involved your mother shouldn't be receiving this if you move out. Is your grandmother your dads mom? You should tell your grandmother and its doesn't matter if your mother doesn't like it. She shouldn't allow him to treat you so disrespectfully or swear at you. If she doesn't like you telling then she should let this happen.

Good for you in sticking up for yourself and I feel you're better off with your grandmother. This abuse could end up escalating and if you're in school you should also tell them so they can put for grandmother as a contact person. Who pays for your therapy?

[dolphinlover8]

Thanks everyone for the support! Yeah I am a minor. I'm only 15. I know my dad was paying child support but when he was in the hospital for his depression he couldn't pay it and my mom told him not to worry about it so I don't know if he is or isn't paying for it again since he got out of the hospital. My grandmother that I would end up moving in with is my moms mom. My mom is paying for my therapy so he has no right again to say that about my therapy.

[kirby777]

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I would be angry w/ mom & her boyfriend as well. What qualifies him to determine whether you go to therapy or not? That is your parents & YOUR decision.

Can you do a trial few weeks at your grandmother's?

I am assuming you are an only child.

Does your mom's boyfriend work?

Keep posting. You probably need people to vent to andno one here will judge you.

[dolphinlover8]

I was actually thinking about that. Just staying over my grandmothers house for a couples night and see how that goes. Yeah I am an only child and her boyfriend does work which is good because I have the day to myself but when he comes home that's when it starts.