[mitcho94]

Today I´ve had a little tough day. I´ve been sick and my throat has been hurting which is feels overwhelming usually for me since I´m a singer.
There other things though that I feel is bothering me.

Well right now I´m in a place where I feel very lonely and and also worried of my trust issues towards people. And right now I´m also thinking about my family. If plans go as planned I´ll be moving away from home quite far from them.
My family has since birth provided me with an economic safety but I wished I had more emotional support. I have been thinking it might be better to stay away from my family after I moved and hopefully meet other people that can become a new friends. People who can bring out the best in me. I´ve cried more times than I wish I´ll do in future. Then there´s also a voice that says that maybe there´s something I could do myself that can improve family relationships.

If anyone has any tip to improve family relationships maybe? Also I´m wondering if anyone has any ideas how one should know if it´s better to put a distance away from your biological family or if there can be things to improve. I´m hoping I made my question understandable.

Lot´s of love, BM

[Nammu]

If it helps I can say that things can get better with time and therapy. My family provided great economic support when I was young but was very emotionally dysfunctional. I left after graduation and went to a university out of state. It wasn't until I was 26 and stated therapy that things started improving. You have a head start by looking for solutions now. Are you in therapy? Check out family counseling. it is not easy and there is resistance in families by those that feel comfortable where they are, it might not be pleasant for them but they have the security of the same routine and change is always hard. It is worth it though. Even if you decide to leave you will need to work on your part to have healthy relationships.

[oil_and_water]

Ask yourself, "How do I want the people around me to treat me?" Take the answer out of the context of family. Try to be around people you feel will treat you as you wish to be treated, biologically related or not.