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Sep 05, 2013, 10:10 PM
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Hello!!!
I'm be to this site, and I'm rely hoping to get some help and advice. I'm a 25 year old female who has been fighting SEVERE jealousy for as long as I can remember. It has pretty much been the reason for all my past break-ups. I'm currently in a relationship that has been up and down almost right from the start and it's only been about 4 months. I get jealous of women on TV, when we go places, on FB, in magazines. It's RIDICULOUS and I can't stand it! And I think I'm an attractive woman, but I don't feel confident enough!! Help!!! |
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Sep 06, 2013, 01:11 PM
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Hi there TexasDoll361,
It sure looks like your jealous tendencies have caused you a lot of frustration. It seems like you have a good understanding already that something is wrong and why. As you pointed out, you lack the self-confidence you need to be at peace and to trust others. Building self-esteem is something most people have to work on because we have a tendency to discount our own true value and emphasize our flaws. That's not really fair to anyone especially to ourselves. My suggestion is you talk to a therapist about this. Since your jealousy extends to more than just relationship boundaries and includes women on TV and other media, you would benefit by learning some strategies to help you feel more empowered about yourself and less threatened by others. You deserve to enjoy healthy relationships so give yourself that opportunity by finding ways to be at peace with others and yourself.
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An old Cherokee told his grandson, "My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, inferiority, lies, and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy, and truth." The boy thought about it and asked, "Grandfather, which wolf wins?" The old man quietly replied, "The one you feed." A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor. Be curious, not judgmental. |
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Sep 06, 2013, 01:13 PM
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Thank you. I feel like talking to someone will not help my situation. I'm not sure what to do. I've considered Hypnotherapy to try and retrain my thoughts ...
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Sep 06, 2013, 11:31 PM
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Can you identify why you lack confidence and in what ways you can build your self esteem? You stated you feel you are attractive but what about the other qualities you have?
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Sep 07, 2013, 11:50 AM
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How would you be with reading material? I have a great book I would gladly recommend. It is called Happiness: a guide to developing life's most important skill by Matthieu Ricard. It is an excellent book and has small exercises one can try at the end of each chapter.
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 lynn P.
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