[Justin Clorde]

Hey everyone,

I'll try to sum this up relatively quickly, and I'd be extremely grateful for any feedback. What I'm about to say will probably make me sound like a complete jerk, but I think it needs to be said. I'm a 16 year old guy. I have what I would consider an amazing life. My parents are very financially well off, I live in a great neighborhood, have a bunch of great friends (my age, 3 "best-friends"), don't do drugs or drink, parents are great and in a mostly happy marriage. I've got a sweet car, a lot of money for my age, and, not to be rude, but I'm a straight white male, so I don't have to deal with any discrimination, harassment, or unequal-pay (nothing against any minorities, all that stuff is wrong, but I still don't have to deal with it). I also have fairly good self esteem about my looks; I work-out, not ugly, etc (although I am self conscious about being 5'5"). Plus best of all I was in full college courses when I was 15, as in I've been in a classroom with 19 and 20 year-olds for about 18 months now (An IQ test gave me a number of 125). That's 65 college credits with a 95% transfer rate to schools in my state, free! But all of that stuff aside, I'm no where near truly happy. Not even close. All I can think about is having a girl. And I'm not talking about sex. I just want a girl to be there for, and to be there for me. I know that if I had that, just that, what most people seem to naturally wind up with, I would be happier than ever. I've never had a 'real' girlfriend. I don't understand why I can't find one when I see all of these douche-bags walking around with these beautiful sweet girls, when all they want is sex. I see these guys that treat their girls absolutely terribly but yet the girls keep going back! It boggles my mind. I would trade half that stuff I listed for a nice girl to be able to call mine. I don't know if that makes me desperate, I hope it doesn't, but at this point I don't really care. That's practically all I can think about. Sometimes it gets to the point if I dwell on it that I get extremely sad at the prospect of never being able to raise a family, growing old, depressed and alone, then dying there, with no one. All I'm looking for is some solid advice on how to fix this. How to become normal. Or maybe just tell me what's wrong with me?

Again, thank you for any feedback.

[manwithnofriends]

I'm almost 20 and I don't have one either! (I'm still waiting for the next 48-year-old or older to tell me (s)he's still single lol)
So be yourself. Nothing's wrong with you. What I find is, those who spend too much time seeking relationships would not (or seldomly) experience happiness out of them.

[Sylveon]

Damn, I wish I was you though. I am the opposite of everything you just wrote haha. but seriously i agree with manwithnofriends their doesn't seem to be anything wrong with you..except too desperate for a girlfriend. You have friends right, why not ask them to hook you up with someone then or are they all single and looking fro a relationship also?

[PeachCream22]

This is just an opinion...but, if you really are what you say you are, and you're quite positive in terms of everything a student could ever dream of being, I'm sure your positive vibes will attract the right person to you. Just don't give up and keep up the good attitude in life. You don't have to go around looking for a girl to be with, eventually there will be someone who will like you for who you are.

Cause if you're too desperate for a girl, you'll most likely be very over-protective and possessive with her, and that's suffocating for a girl, most likely, and that'll put the relationship under strain. Just...take it easy and go with the flow...but if you find someone you like and you're sincere about it, well, be serious and tell her and see where it goes. Who knows what will happen I wish you best of luck in your endeavours!

[LadyShadow]

I feel the same way you do, except I'm a 33 year old female. Makes me sound pathetic right? I hate to say this because this is probably the last thing you want to hear but you're 16! Enjoy school! Enjoy being young and handsome, and that lucky girl will find her way to you.

You won't be alone forever, you are way too young to talk like that

[Odee]

It's not that you can't find a relationship, it is simply that you haven't yet. You're 16, there is nothing wrong with you save with the depressing obsession with feeling like you have to have someone. In fact, it sounds like your life is going in a great direction. You WILL find a girl but it doesn't have to be now.

[avlady]

You are so lucky to be in the situation you're in now. Just think in 10 years, if you do meet someone now, you might have kids relying on you, just because you wanted someone now and won't wait for it, even though you have to. I say if i was in your shoes to play the field awhile until you can find that special someone, we all come with our own baggage of stuff, you might meet someone soon or years from now, just enjoy the now moments. There are plenty of girls out there who would love to be with you for materialistic reasons too, it sounds like all your needs are met and more. Just reading this post makes me happy to know someone is fulfilled except for that one thing which most likely will come along sooner than you think because you are at the age of having a good relationship.