[rolan86]

So there is this girl on campus I have been eyeing since last year, and she is by far the prettiest girl I have ever seen here. I want to meet her so badly, but really have no way to get to know her. I know none of her friends, or have any classes or anything with her. I've only seen her from afar. As much as I want to say we are meant for each other, I have no idea. I just think she is really pretty, and seems really cool. So I suppose as of right now it's just lust. I tried so hard to meet her last year, but it just never happened. There was never an opportunity. I felt really lousy and depressed when the year ended, having never met her, and going home for the summer feeling regretful about it. Well, now it's a new year, and I have seen her around campus. I REALLY want to meet her, and ask her on a date. Maybe it's the lust talking, but I would definitely want to be in a relationship with her. Like with most girls I find pretty, I am always hesitant to think about starting a relationship with, but with this girl, I know I'd do it in a heartbeat.

My main problem though is how nervous I get. Whenever I see her in passing, I get incredibly nervous and insecure, and instead of going up and saying hi, just look the other way and keep walking. Is this normal? Am I just that much of a wimp? It's always intimidating when she is with her friends, because I would feel like such a creep just approaching her. What would I say? Sure, if there is an opportunity, and something she says or does that I see that I can comment on, you know, something relevant, sure I'll do it. But to just go up and say Hi, I think you're pretty, how are you? I'd feel like too much of a creep. So as for now, I'm just waiting for that perfect opportunity... Up until recently I didn't even know who she was, her name or anything. But then after ACCIDENTALLY stumbling upon her facebook, you know that little newsfeed thing above the chat list, that tells you everything people like, well I just clicked on a photo someone liked, and it was her. So now I've seen her facebook. I don't want to be a creep though. I don't want to constantly visit her facebook, despite how tempting. I don't want this to be like that. Finding it was an accident, and I don't want to be a cyber creeper. I just want an opportunity to meet her in real life!! Although one thing I did find out on her facebook... she's single!

[CastlesInTheAir]

Why not start off small, you don't have to dive in....

one day in passing simply smile and say hi, or good morning, afternoon......

keep smiling.....in passing.....

maybe another day do the same except say "hey, how are you?" and see what happens...

dont force anything....

i bet just after a week of you intiating a smile and hello she'll intiate the next time.....acknowleding your presence....

then offer a simple compliment......

its the small things....

[Poppy Princess]

Just say hi and ride the wave to where ever you are able to take it.

[NWgirl2013]

I dunno but any girl would be very flattered to know that someone thinks they are the prettiest girl they have ever seen.

I had someone walk up to me in a grocery store and Say That to me, "I'm sorry to impose, but I have just never seen anyone so beautiful! I just Had to speak to you!" I was startled and embarrassed, but he quickly put a card in my hand and thanked me for speaking to him.
It was sweet that he left it up to me, if there would be contact, but let me tell you, I never forgot him and it made my day/week/month.
Nothing like adoration to turn a girls head ...

[Diana1]

I agree, start off small. Why not use your Facebook situation as a reason to meet her. Obviously it makes you nervous when she is with friends so wait until you see her alone and say something like , I think I just recently saw your pic on Facebook. Is your name ??? whatever. I think its a good idea but my approach may need some tweeking. You don't want to go through another summer kicking yourself you never approached her. Also if you wait too long she may end up not being single anymore, especially if she's as pretty as you say she is. Not trying to add pressure but I think you should say hi. Bump into her and spill your coffee. Hopefully on yourself and not her but if its her you can offer to pay for the dry cleaning, or whatever. I hope you attempt to meet her!

[rolan86]

some solid advice guys, thank you. I like the whole take it slow approach. I will definitely try to smile at her next time I see her and even say hi. I wouldn't feel like too much of a creep doing that. Although I'm just wondering if she'd even be into me. This is moreso just a self-confidence issue, but I'm just wondering how different we might be. Like she seems like the hippie type. She has dreads, and seems to go to lots of music festivals, makes art that focuses around fractal images, (which more or less suggests she uses psychedelic drugs, which I don't use, but none the less is an amazing artist), likes the grateful dead and all that, you get the picture. Me? Well, I'm much more serious than free loving. Rather than laughing and hoola hooping and hacky sacking with other hippies in the sunshine, I'm probably walking by myself trying to get away from all the laughter and social activity, immersed in my own contemplative thoughts. That's the thing. I think I'm too introverted for a hippie girl to like me. I'm not the kind of guy who would go around saying namaste to everyone and walking around singing shirtless with a guitar around my body. I'm too shy for that stuff. I'd rather study or have intense political discussions than facepaint and engage in public group hugs and have fun in the sun. Not putting it down by any means, just I'm quite introverted. I like the dead though, play in a band, have long hair? I dunno. I'm over thinking this too much... Personally I'm a really fun guy to talk to!

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by rolan86

some solid advice guys, thank you. I like the whole take it slow approach. I will definitely try to smile at her next time I see her and even say hi. I wouldn't feel like too much of a creep doing that. Although I'm just wondering if she'd even be into me. This is moreso just a self-confidence issue, but I'm just wondering how different we might be. Like she seems like the hippie type. She has dreads, and seems to go to lots of music festivals, makes art that focuses around fractal images, (which more or less suggests she uses psychedelic drugs, but none the less is an amazing artist), likes the grateful dead and all that, you get the picture. Me? Well, I'm much more serious than free loving. Rather than laughing and hoola hooping and hacky sacking with other hippies in the sunshine, I'm probably walking by myself trying to get away from all the laughter and social activity, immersed in my own contemplative thoughts. That's the thing. I think I'm too introverted for a hippie girl to like me. I'm not the kind of guy who would go around saying namaste to everyone and walking around singing shirtless with a guitar around my body. I'm too shy for that stuff. I'd rather study or have intense political discussions than facepaint engage and have fun in the sun. Not putting it down by any means, just I'm quite introverted. I like the dead though, play in a band, have long hair? I dunno. I'm over thinking this too much... Personally I'm a really fun guy to talk to!

Listen you're overthinking this. Like NWgirl said, it is unbelievably flattering to a girl when a guy out there is that into them. And you never know, they say opposites attract right?

Just take it slow like everyone said, and just say hi, the next time you see her, and just take it from there. Maybe, a hello next time, then a how are you.

Good luck to you, and tell us how it goes!

[PeachCream22]

This is by far one of the sweetest posts I've ever read. I would die if a guy were to think that much about me or to-

ahem. Sorry, getting off topic. Anyway, don't wait for an oppurtunity, make one! Like the posters said, talk to her, simple greeting, or join a club she's in? accidentally bump into her, etc. I'd be really really regretful if I were to spend ANOTHER summer thinking about her. At this rate, you'll never get to know her! And she might not be single anymore! that would totally ruin any chances you have already!

But try not to come off as too desperate, like you said, or you might seem like a creep. Girls nowadays mostly immediately reject a guy who comes off too forward. Be casual, play it cool, don't be nervous. She's just a girl, a human, like you! Good luck!

[rolan86]

haha it's nice to know that you think my post is sweet and to know that a girl would actually appreciate it makes me feel better. yeah, I am totally ready to approach her. I don't care how different we might be. although I do have some conflicts. I've never had a girlfriend before. Ever. And this is my last year in college. So I am just conflicted. I want to experience love in college, but I don't know if I should wait or not. Should I wait for this particular girl? I just see what happens with someone else? I have sort of blocked out other girls of interest just because I want to meet this particular girl. But what if it never happens? Should I just deny myself the possibility of being with someone else? I sort of gave myself an unofficial deadline, which would be around thanksgiving break, that if we hadn't met by that point, I would just force myself to move on. I am still confused as to what I should do really.