I get it. Your relationship is Awesome. Now kindly shut the eff up. Thanks

The title was my latest facebook message. I'm so sick of all the lovey dovey statuses. I want them all to be miserable like me. Screw it. I'm selfish and mean. I don't care.

Lol & hugs. I had to read your post - I was pretty sure you didnt mean anybody here!! Unfortunately for many of us!

No not at all! I didn't mean anyone here. It was all Facebook!

I really need to get off of there.

LOL.

lol I was the same way when I had a FB. It was constantly "OMG LOVE OF MY LYFE" and then two days later "YOU BROKE MY HEART </3".

Yes, you should take a facebook break if you can (although much easier said than done, I know) ...I think Facebook is toxic and most people are full of crap and trying to show up what other people post on their wall (and then the cycle continues). Anyway, love your facebook message and I could not agree more!!

You mean, you don't want to read about it, every time you open up FB? I just hide those friends, LOL

What's making FB worse, is the default to 'most popular' in the newsfeed over 'most recent'. So the more people like those 'statuses' the more rubbed in the face these people become...

*sigh* FB....why do any of us log in there anymore?!

I had one for a month when I turned 18 and then deleted it a month later and went "why did I think I was missing out on something" high school never ends on FB.

Facebook should be called FAKEbook. It's like high school all over again and taking yourself off is not a bad idea at all. Honestly I've never seen so many people with the best spouse, children, job, house, car, degrees, etc. I notice just from reading my own friends statuses that A LOT of exagerration takes place so don't let them get to you, though, I do commend you for putting that on your status!

Thanks! I got some interesting comments from people for putting that as my status like "what crawled up your butt?"

I just answered, "nothing crawled up my butt, just stating an observation"

But I am amazed how many people "liked" that status too. It seems that everyone is thinking it, but no one has the balls to say it.

Glad I did. I stand by it!

Also, those couple of glasses of wine didn't help the situation. You shouldn't be drunk and on facebook too! LOL.

I feel better now though. I just needed to say something. Every one is entitled to get a little upset at all the "fakeness" that goes on in Facebook.

(((PlatinumHeart))) many hugs and well thoughts.

I don't know how this may come across but I had a friend recently, that posted a message that was - not exactly like your's but similar.

The floods were going on and she called us that basically that were worried and cared about our families or significant others- whiners and to shut up *****es.

To be honest I saw it more of a reflection on her than anything else- not many liked her status either, and the few that commented tried to woe her. which I saw as enabling the true problem.

I have struggled a lot of my life with not beating myself up on caring about others... And so it did strike that cord with in myself and I realized that. But still, I saw her post more about a reflection on her- that it was in anger and pain due to all she had been through- and while I still wish her well and for her to heal and I am sorry she has struggled-- to bash on people in that fashion, I see as a bit toxic. (but that is just me and yes has to deal with my background)



I think with this, you have vented- gotten agreement by others--- how about making a step to make yourself a bit happier?

Despite being in a relationship or not with another- the most important relationship is with yourself.

While I do agree- face book is quiet fake- but that is another side of this post that has already been touched and I think distracts from something you have control over

Many well thoughts and I hope this message finds you well 's

I feel the exact same way, I haven't had one in years and when I did go on for a brief moment I immediately realized I was missing nothing. Every one was exactly as vain and uninteresting as they had been three years ago.

I use facebook purely for communication, especially for my friends who don't have cell phones. Of course, it would be a lie if I said I wasn't tempted to look at all the posts on the newsfeeds. Some are interesting posts about articles and information updates on universities and stuff, but for those friends who spam my news feeds everyday with hash tags and other attention seeking statuses I just go to their profile and I can then hide their posts and not make them flood my newsfeed.

LOL i also personally agree with your status. I want to be mean along with you! Let's feel mean together!! haha!! People who are content with what they have shouldn't feel the need to show it off to the world. I think people who post on facebook all the time every single day about their relationships' awesomeness just have low self-esteem. But that could be a little judgmental on my part haha, best thing to do is to just ignore them. Don't let yourself get worked up over it!

I deleted my Facebook weeks ago. No more annoying statuses from others. It's been glorious.

I totally get what you're saying. It is a reflection on me and what's going on in my life, so I felt the need to take it out on them for showing off at how wonderful their relationship is.

I guess I just snapped because I got so sick and tired of the "laying next to my boyfriend tonight, oh I'm so in love" and "oh life is so great with XXX in it" posts that I just had to lash out.

You make a good point because one of my really good friends who is really happy in her life with her new job and husband felt the need to make a status saying "I'm happy in my life and if I want to post it I will, if you don't like it then delete me". That comment was directly related to my post and I felt bad because I honestly wasn't talking about her, but several others, which I probably need to now delete off my facebook because I am lashing out at some really good friends without realizing it.

So thanks for your comment, I will definitely re-evaluate my life and my thinking and try not to lash out at others.

By the way, the "stop whining and shut up *****es" comment that other girl made you mentioned is something I would never say, because I understand people care about their families and loved ones. I am not totally insensitive, I was just so annoyed by the constant flooding of my page of the incessant nonsense.

Hugs

Thanks for this! I am really starting to feel bad I said it, but it needed to be said. Some of those people need a reality check, and I hope they get it. It was the most hateful thing I ever posted on facebook and now I regret it.

I think I am going to back off for a while, and just say positive things if I have something to say. Lashing out at others is not who I am, I was never like that, its just in my old age I'm getting bitter and I want others to be as miserable as me.

Thanks for posting this. I feel the same way. This is exactly part of why i AVOID Facebook. Awesome way of putting it though.
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Thanks! Can't say I don't feel some guilt, but it had to be said. Sometimes enough is enough.

I wouldn't worry or overthink the status too much. I see what the other poster was saying about it being a reflection of yourself, but again this is facebook - let's not make this a bigger deal than it is. I don't think it's THAT deep. No one likes a show off in real life or on Facebook - and clearly by the number of likes you had, many others agree with you (and I). I think the example the other posted provided was completely different in context - I mean people were posting b/c they were worried about loved ones, not simply to brag about the greatness of their relationship. And I agree with you, all that braggin does say something about that person too - the need for constant reassurance or something? We all got our issues is all I know. What might be a good idea is to just take a break from Facebook - it can be toxic.

I think you're absolutely right! You make some good points. I ended up with 23 likes on the status, where I usually get like 2 or 3 because I am not on facebook often. I stayed away a while, and just look at it here and there, but every time I do go to Facebook, I get upset or get jealous, or just MAD.

It's odd, everytime I say I want to stay away, I go back and look anyway. But you and all the posters are right. Maybe it is a time for a break. Just gotta stick to it! LOL.

I think I look at it like this. So many of us have spent so much time feeling misserable. When something magical happens in our lives or feels like it and when we are truly very happy, might want to shout it from the rooftops. If we can't celebrate our happiness what can we celebrate. There is so much **** in the world, if people are happy and something is going good, I want to hear about that cause I get to hear and experience so much bad stuff all the time. And that is toxic. I guess I see it more as gratitude for what they do have and less like bragging. I don't know if that helps any, just another perspective.

I understand, I have been there too and it's not easy. But maybe letting some of the anger and jealousy go even a little might help make room for what you really want in your own life . Don't beat yourself up to much, and yup just stay away if it is making you feel bad. I hardly ever use it except to share photos with a few close friends and family, and I feel a lot better without a constant stream of info in my life. Gives me more time to actually live.