[wannabe87]

I am in a "relationship" with someone that I have ZERO attraction to. I simply said I would date her because I did not want to feel shallow. I have no physical or emotional attraction for her. She has no clue about that fact, and thinks everything is okay. But I get annoyed just when she texts me, because I just am not very interested in her. I feel terrible and so selfish because of this.

I am suffering from severe depression and I think that could be a part of why I get angry if she texts, but at the same time I just have so many things about myself that I'm worried about and I'm trying to get on the right "track" with my own life.

I am not a "physical" guy if you know what I mean, but I'm just not physically attracted to her in any way at all. This makes me feel like I am so shallow, especially because she is a good person.

Emotionally, there is zero attraction as well. Sometimes I do get afraid she will catch on and leave, simply because I also do not want to be alone. But I just do not have any actual attraction at all. I haven't even kissed her and its been really over a year.

What do I do? I feel so selfish and shallow about this.

[Angel of Bedlam]

You need to be honest. Aside from it being unfair to you, it is very unfair to her. If you're unhappy and staying, then you're not giving her the chance to find someone who is attracted to her and loves her for who she is.

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[gayleggg]

I, agree. Be truthful with her. You are really being unfair to her and yourself.

[hannabee]

Yep, you have to let her know, she deserves to find someone who will ADORE her and you are being selfish in thinking that there is no such person. There's someone for her as well as someone for you.

[kimmiemom]

Honesty is always the best route. It's the fair thing to do for her and for yourself. Why waste precious time with someone you don't have a connection with? You're wasting your time and hers. For the sake of both of you, please fess up and move on. Good luck

[healingme4me]

Be honest with her. It's not fair to yourself or to her, to keep the charade continuing.

You seem, more concerned about seeming 'shallow'? Why is that?

Staying, and building up resentment, isn't a solid foundation, for any relationship. Not kissing her, in over a year. Seems, like a long time, to hold the strings of attachment, over someone.

You need to break up with her. As others posted above, it is not fair to either of you to be "together" when you have no feelings for her whatsoever. Good luck.