[garspeelin]

get my spouse to go to couples therapy if she does not want to go? WE have relationship issues that I eel stem from her having an alcoholic parents that persist to be an issue. That problem flows over into our relationship and I have asked her to go to therapy with me but she always says no.

[curley]

Maybe you can go for counseling to find out how to deal with your spouse.
Do you know why your spouse does not want to go for counseling. Is she interested in making your marriage work?

[~Christina]

You can't force her to go .. You should go ahead and get into Therapy. Hopefully she will get curious and decide to give it a try ..

Good luck

[healingme4me]

"We can lead a horse to water, but we cannot make them drink." Is a quote I use, when describing what it's like to 'make' another person go to therapy. It's usually only effective when the person is willing and ready to make changes in their lives and own behaviors.

One thing, you can do, is attend individual therapy for a while, work on your own reactions and expressions used, when dealing with whatever troubles you are coming across, in your marriage.

It involves, expressing yourself, a bit differently to your wife.

If she chooses, to follow your lead, great, if not, at least you are working on yourself and growing from the experience.