Hi guys

Ok...so I'm 19 & single... People who ask how many previous boyfriends I've had are amazed to hear me tell them that I've actually never had a 'boyfriend'. Dates, yes. Boyfriends? None.

My problem is I haven't been feeling any attraction to any of the men I speak to or meet up with :/ and you obviously do need that physical attraction; I'm not talking lust or "OHMYGODHE'SSOFIT" eyes boggle out jaw drops to your knees kind of initial attraction, I'm talking about 'liking' & feeling 'attracted' to their physical features.

But I don't feel it. :/ I wonder why...

I wonder whether I'll ever meet anyone I feel the tiniest ounce of attraction to...? Because regardless of what some people will say, looks AS WELL AS personality, matter. But I seem to find it's always one or the other with my encounters; either they find me attractive but I like them as a friend, I like them more than a friend but they're otherwise not compatible with me; e.g. his personality clashes with my own in a bad way, or they find me attractive but I do not find them attractive. Etc...

I see people younger than me or a few years older than me...etc etc... with their partners and I always wonder how they managed to find people...

My 23 year old cousin had a bad breakup with her ex boyfriend 2 years ago when he left her at the alter :/ on their wedding day & texted her later saying he 'couldn't do this anymore'. They'd been together for 7 years. But anyway, extremely hard as it must have been for her, she is now seeing a lovely kind bloke for about a year and a half now. EVEN SHE CAN FIND SOMEONE...And she had a horrible breakup.....

Just makes me wonder that's all.

you're not alone.

i'm 25, and i've never been with anyone- but i don't want too. i want to be single.

what is it they say.. their's at least 1 person in this world for everyone- so who knows, 1 day you may find someone

[manwithnofriends]

my advice is not to "seek" a relationship. continue doing what you do best (you should know what it is by now)

I believe no one can ever be "good" at seeking relationships otherwise they'd be living with their first love "happily ever after" and if it takes more than one relationship to find "the one" then clearly they're not good at it.

[Dionysius]

I always found that a decent one would "just turn up" when not particularly looking, I agree with manwithnofriends just keep doing what you already do, if a good one turns up you will just know.

[wisedude]

You must know what attracts you in guys (if your attracted to guys), so seek out guys with that attribute.

Why are you dating guys you don't find attractive?

Originally Posted by wisedude

You must know what attracts you in guys (if your attracted to guys), so seek out guys with that attribute.

Why are you dating guys you don't find attractive?

...Physically speaking; sort of...

Personality speaking; yes; caring, trustworthiness, & patience mainly.

But I tend to find that guys who DO more or less match the physical &/or personality, turn out to not be a match in basic compatibility terms i.e. I find I just don't 'click' with them, or feel anything.