My spouse works all the time...

My husband has a very time consuming job. The job requires a lot of travel, therefore he is gone most of the week and sometimes the weekends. We had a lot of problems in the beginning because we had to make a lot of life adjustments due to him being gone all the time. I admit that in the beginning I am the one that had the biggest problem because I felt that he no longer had time for my son and I. I began to feel very lonely and like a single parent. I realized that he was making huge sacrifices for us so that we could have a happy and comfortable life. I decided to make do with what I had to work with and really throw myself in to other aspects of my life that I wanted to work on. I stopped complaining about him not being around or always working when we were on vacation. I got used to being alone and even became okay with it. With so much 'me time' I was able to start doing things that I had wanted to do for a long time like working out every day, eating better, spending more time with friends, volunteering, etc. My son also go used to just being with me the majority of the time and started to rely solely on me.
Now, many months later, my husband is expressing that he does not feel very included in our family anymore, that he is very lonely, he feels like we don't notice him when he's here, and he just isn't getting the attention he needs. He says he has become very unhappy in the relationship. It's led to many fights over the last couple months. He continues to make me feel like I am not doing enough to hold us all together. I can't always just drop everything I am doing when he has some free time. I definitely feel us drifting apart and I we have discussed divorce even though neither of us wants that at this point in time. I feel very frustrated that he griped at me for so long about making him feel guilty over something he had no control over and now it feels as though the tables have turned. I feel like we are starting to resent each other and I don't want that to happen. I think we have a hard time relating to each other sometimes because we lead very separate lives.
Is there anyone else that has been through a similar situation that can offer any advice?
Thanks

Hey ja22383,

Sometimes couples go through rough patches and it is normal, especially when you're husband has a job that leads to him travelling a lot.

Maybe some sort of couples or family therapy will help you guys, or try to have a calm conversation with him, without it turning into a fight, and try to discuss everything you have said here with him. If he starts to raise his voice just interrupt him and let him know that the conversation won't work if he starts to yell.

I hope that helps and I hope you guys work things out.

Cheers