How does one say their sorry without speaking the words?

I am going through a really tough time in my marriage due to my ups and downs. My husband says that he is tired of hearing the same thing- im sorry.

Any advise (besides not repeating what I did wrong in the first place) on how else I can show him? I already thought of writing him a note...I know there are a lot of things but my mind is blank with anything. So somebody please help me here. Thx

I find, often times, the words 'I'm sorry", lose meaning. Sometimes, it's an overused expression.

Sure, people can not repeat a specific behavior, but coming from someone who can identify with your husbands sentiment of not wanting to hear "I'm sorry," it much more than just not repeating the specific behavior, it's about an overhaul of approach towards life, the relationship, others, etc.

Are you currently in counseling? And if so, what else, are you doing, above and beyond therapy sessions, to get to the heart of what's bringing about these ups and downs and what changes are you trying to overcome what's causing struggles in your marriage?

Step 4, of any 12 step, is a good start, at looking at how to have an approach towards personal responsibility.

Not sure, specifically, what's going on in your marriage, per se. And I could be way off.

I just know, that I'm a hard one, to apologize to. Not that I won't accept sorry talk, but there are times, with most everyone in my life, at this stage in my life, where I will blurt out, 'no need to apologize' pertaining to matters that I just don't feel an I'm sorry is called for. Because, I prefer the sorry talk to be for matters that matter.

We have been together 15years so there has been a lot of Im sorry's throughout the years. What I mean by ups and downs is that I have been having some issues with finding the right medications for my Bipolar and 2 weeks ago my doc did a total flip on me and changed everything so I have been really short with my patience lately, have been snappish and basically kinda went off on him for no reason. Im not saying he wears a halo and doesn't ever do anything wrong its just I know regardless of how he acts I need to show love and kindness even if my mood isn't nice. SO we both are kinda over the words Im sorry. Therefore looking for some advise on what other do to show the other spouse. Yes we are in therapy and yes I am in personal therapy. We both read marriage self help books and we both read books educating us both on how to deal with Bipolar. Thank you for your response.

Random acts of kindness, comes to mind.

I'm with the random acts of kindness thing, in addition to the obvious you mentioned- not to repeat the behavior