[inadequate]

I am in love with this guy. And he feels the same toward me. However, he is better than me in every way. He's smarter, better-looking, and so on. This makes me feel inferior and insecure. I feel I'm not worthy of his love. I feel extremely small when I'm with him. I wish I could be as intelligent as him in order to be more worthy of his love. I hate myself. I hate my shortcomings. My biggest fear is that he would abandon me because of the fact I'm not as great as him. As a genius, he has every reason to despise me. He outshines me in every area. Whenever I detect a tiny sign that he might ignore/hate me, I feel like dying. Because of these, I'm not myself when I'm with this guy. I care TOO much about how he thinks of me. I appear very nervous, hypersensitive, and stupid. And this makes things worse. I am over-conscious about every word I say to him. I fear something I say would sound silly according to him and that he would despise me. I feel I'm just a silly little girl in his eyes. I know in fact he loves me. But I can never enjoy his love because of my feeling of inadequacy. I feel I need to be a much, much better person to deserve his love. I always try to be smarter so as to be "equal" to him, yet only end up making a fool of myself. This drives me crazy. What can I do now?

[nothemama8]

Half the battle is won, hon. You say he already loves you.
The only thing you need to adjust is you attitude toward yourself,.
!. if he didn't think you where smart he wouldn't be with you
2. you may have talents he doesn't
STOP putting yourself down relax and enjoy your relationship with him, and remember never tell him how inferior you are.
Good luck
Angie

[Perna]

Obviously, if you're so deficient (you're not, it's just your outlook) then he doesn't love you for those characteristics? So why does he love you? Got you there! But he does so you must have attributes he really enjoys. I often ask my husband for his view of me and then just accept it, whether I can see it in myself or not. I trust my husband's judgment so if he says I'm X, Y, and Z then I am to other people who like/love me and the only problem is looking for those features in myself or waiting until they manifest in some way such that I can see them. Getting "the view" is like getting a present! We are what our friends see, not the people who don't care for us because they have other agendas, not related to us; those who truly care for us want us to know how wonderful we are for our own sakes. They want our growth and happiness.

[Rhapsody]

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

Please remember that LOVE has nothing to do with how smart or good looking one is or is not..... LOVE is BLIND (for a reason), for it sees with the heart and not the eyes or intellectual mind.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Fuzzybear]