[Katielolxxx]

I'm torn on what to do with my bf. I've been with him almost two years and we've had terrribleee ups and downs, but we somehow made it through until the last month or two. We've both been irritable over our own issues, and i haven't been interested in sex [not that im not attracted to him, just no urge or desire for it] .He's broken up with me twice and the one time i took all my stuff [ since we live together] he asked me if we could try again. i mean, i am trying but it seems like nothing i do appeases him. he has zero patience, and his main issue is the sex. we used to have it all the time, and now its like once a week or so. he thinks im not trying, but i really am. it may not seem like much but it is. and hes obvlisous to it all. he pisses me off and does **** i dont agree with, but overall i do love him and would accept him if only he accepted me completely.
im at the point where my brain is saying go, and my heart is saying stay. i want to HOPE we have something left.. but i kind of feel like unless him and i start doing **** we did when we first dated [ which he doesnt wanna do] like go on dates and stupid stuff like that.. then idk if we are compatitible anymore.

anyone else understand my dilemma ?
ive been in a 4 year relationship and it got to the point of me breaking it off with the kid because i did not care AT ALL anymore and i just dont want it to get to that point with this relationship.

help?!?!

[lsamson]

Hey Katie,

In all honesty I think you should break up with your boyfriend. It sounds like both of you arn't happy any more and need some time. I think that one of the reasons that you don't want to end it is because it has been going out with him for 2 years which is a lot of commitment.

Let me explain this another way, if you have been working at a job for 30 years but start to hate it you will find it a lot harder to quit because you have invested so much of your time in it. This is similar to your relationship, although I am not inferring it is a job! haha

In all honesty I think you should break up, but I do not know you so maybe you should ask one of your friends or family?

[curley]

Well, the fact that you are thinking stay, go stay go, means you really are not sure. Obviously. I think your idea of going on dates with each other, whether you live together or not is a great way of getting the sparks to fly....if there are any to fly. Maybe once you point that out to this man he may feel a little better about the starting over type thing.
I don't know how old you are but haven't you realized that SEX is like numero uno to most men!! Most of their life.
If none of this works, maybe it would be a good time to say good bye, or at least take a break!!!
Good Luck