[K Tina]

Recently, someone I've been obsessed with for three years finally moved on. I lost my job within days of this happening. I've not been able to accomplish much, I'll go days without brushing my teeth, I'm eating badly, I do nothing all day. This has been going on for months. I'm isolated most of the time and going broke. Any suggestion on how to move on? I'm scared that from now on I will compare every possible love interest to the one that abandoned me for another.. I'm scared I will never meet any other person as smart and precious and perfect in my eyes. It's not fair to myself or any one in my future. I don't feel as if there's another out there for me. I need to realize he does not feel the same for me, but I've such the strongest most intense feeling for years about him. Never wavering.
Will I ever get over this? He is so happy and I'm dead inside.
I've struggled with depression and social anxiety since my teens, this has been a horrible trigger for me and I feel little reason to leave my bed let alone my home.
Any similar cases out there?

[healingme4me]

I once, had a long time crush on someone. There were qualities about him, that appealed greatly to me, and I pined away for him. I do recall, a specific moment in time, when I just woke up, and realized, that there were others out there, that seemed interested, and I wondered why I was wasting so much time, hoping and dreaming on something that just wasn't happening. And the more, I decided to open myself up to the possibilities of other chances, opportunities, the more I realized, that he wasn't the only man on this planet that possessed the qualities in him, that attracted me to him, oh so much.

It's strange, how the more, I let go of the notion of him, the more self confidence and self assuredness I gained within myself.

Taking back that power, is empowering and it also helped repair what self esteem was lacking within me.

That was a little, over a year ago. That I reclaimed that, within myself.

[LadyShadow]

It is possible, I am headed down your road too. I recently got dumped but I begged to hold on and stay in contact with him. During that time, life has moved on without me, people getting married, having kids and living life. I need to take the power back and so do you. Something has to, needs to change.

I hope things work out for you, and you end the cycle. I am hurting more now than I ever was and I hope you don't hurt anymore either.

[I am human]

K Tina, rest a little longer then get up brush those teeth take a shower and do something just for you ! play make up, do you r nails toes or fingers or both whatever makes you happy Love! I am an older gal and in the same boat but we all have beauty in us and lets not let anyone take that away! I will be on here off and on today so you are not alone! We have to give that love back to ourselves!!

[PeachCream22]

I know and understand how you feel. I'm in the same boat, but I'm trying to move on, and it takes a lot of willpower. It feels unfair that we are still hurting when the other party has moved on and is having such an enjoyable life. If you are having trouble moving on, perhaps you did not have closure. And if you did, and you still can't move on, well, try a little harder. Give yourself little treats for every little thing you do. If you manage to get out of bed, and that is a good accomplishment, reward yourself with something you like: a favourite food or something. If you wanna stop feeling so down, try cleaning up your room? Once you complete, like, say, your wardrobe, give yourself another pat on the back. Take small, little steps to get back up again.

Once you get up, you'll realize how much of a road you've still got ahead of you, so don't give up. You will regret wasting yourself on your bed, when half of the town could be chasing a hottie, which is you. Give yourself a makeover, pamper yourself, and stop beating yourself up over someone who's forgotten about you three years ago! He isn't worth it! Your lost time can't be found again! Doesn't matter how much you love him, you gotta love yourself too!! You can't let him have all the love, what about you?