[halbrooksprincez3]

This kind of goes with my recent post.

I got married about a month ago.

Let me backtrack.

Before i met my husband, I was with this guy. (lets just call him......BS)

BS and i had a strong connection. We were really good friends, and good FWB.

Well, we had a bad breakup. it was pretty big.

We stopped talking for like a year and a half. During that year and a half, no communication was exchanged, nothing.

**FAST FOWARD**

I got married a month ago (as previously stated).

Me and BS started talking again, out of the blue. Thats all that happened, was just talking, nothing else. This went on for like a week.

Yesterday, out of the blue, he was like, we have to stop talking, dah dah dah, we cant even see each other (litterally(?)), that type of thing.

Well, i didnt like that answer. So, i went to go talk to him.

He basically explained himself. He was like, i have to put up this wall, im an ____hole, you need to leave me alone, i dont want to talk to you.....etc.

Why all of the sudden, out of nowhere, he doesnt want to talk to me? I feel really hurt by this, and i want him in my life. We were really good friends, and i just cant see myself without him in my life. Friends or not.

I need help

[Confusedinomicon]

Maybe he still feels attracted to you and doesn't want to jepordize your marriage.

[halbrooksprincez3]

Then poses the question:

Why do i have to "suffer" a loss of a really good friend because he wants to leave?

[healingme4me]

How does your husband, feel, about BS? And, if it's not going to jeopardize your marriage, then have a talk with BS...

Maybe, BS, cannot accept that you are married, and that's why he stepped away? Not sure, that can only be resolved with a good heart to heart discussion.

[halbrooksprincez3]

I tried talking to him after he said we arent going to talk anymore and he just walked away.

[healingme4me]

You may never get an answer. There's many people, like that. They just walk away, leaving those behind, confused and without any answers. Sorry, that you've lost a friend.

[halbrooksprincez3]

It just hurts.

[ThirtyThree82]

Why all of a sudden did he want to talk to you? That's the real question. Maybe he was just looking for more benefits? Since you're married now, he realized that you're no longer an option. Another question you should be asking yourself, why did you marry your husband?? Why is your focus on someone you used to date? Do you not have such a strong connection with your husband? I read your other post about him acting insecure. Perhaps he has some instincts about how you're currently feeling sad over another guy. Dramatic interactions with a partner can sometimes be mistaken for love and emotional connection. I don't think BS was that great of a friend if you had stopped talking for over a year. He is probably someone that is not supposed to be in your life long term, and is a challenge for you to let go of. You're missing that old connection, not the person.

[halbrooksprincez3]

I was actually thinking about that ThirtyThree82, and I mean yes it does hurt the way he went about it, but maybe it is for the best.