[Djinn8]

I've been really bad lately, but finally the mental health service have taken note and offered to help me out. The plan is a course of meds, regular talks with a councilor and membership with a community day service that helps people with problems like mine.

I see the latter being the most important of the three, as a big part of my problem is the way I drive myself insane through isolation. The chance to mingle with people is a better treatment for me than any sort of meds or therapy.

But there's a problem. The group in my town also happens to be where my ex girlfriend goes and has been going for the last five years. Her best friend goes there. The guy she cheated on me with also goes there. So I can't go. It's enemy territory.

So after years of trying to get help for myself, I finally get it and I can't make use of it.

[aern01]

Djinn8,
Is there another group of people within this community center that you can hang around with? I would bring this issue up in your individual therapy sessions. Besides this affecting
your ability to get treatment,you also need to be able to deal with these past relationships,
& move on to a better life & better mental health.

[HourHand]

Dang, that is rough! I can't get help in my town either! I know exactly what you are up against.

[Djinn8]

Originally Posted by aern01

Djinn8,
Is there another group of people within this community center that you can hang around with? I would bring this issue up in your individual therapy sessions. Besides this affecting
your ability to get treatment,you also need to be able to deal with these past relationships,
& move on to a better life & better mental health.

I don't think dealing with my past relationships like you say is really a good idea. The breakup is rather fresh (only about five months or so) and her and her new boyfriend are being as cruel as they can to me: phoning me up while having sex to tell me what they are doing and sending me death threats by text. I've not done anything to deserve that kind of treatment, but it's their way of bonding their new relationship I suppose.

The real kicker is that she's not really ill any more. She was once upon a time, but she's been stable and happy for a good couple of years now. While she might have a relapse if her support was pulled from under her, shes more than capable of making a go of it if she chose to. She just doesn't want to take life into her own hands; happy having workers sort her life out while claiming benefits that are better than any wage she would earn.

It's ironic really. The way she's treated me has been a massive factor in my degrading health, but I can't get help because of her. Talk about a trap.

[aern01]

Originally Posted by Djinn8

I don't think dealing with my past relationships like you say is really a good idea. The breakup is rather fresh (only about five months or so) and her and her new boyfriend are being as cruel as they can to me: phoning me up while having sex to tell me what they are doing and sending me death threats by text. I've not done anything to deserve that kind of treatment, but it's their way of bonding their new relationship I suppose.

The real kicker is that she's not really ill any more. She was once upon a time, but she's been stable and happy for a good couple of years now. While she might have a relapse if her support was pulled from under her, shes more than capable of making a go of it if she chose to. She just doesn't want to take life into her own hands; happy having workers sort her life out while claiming benefits that are better than any wage she would earn.

It's ironic really. The way she's treated me has been a massive factor in my degrading health, but I can't get help because of her. Talk about a trap.

Djinn8--I am so sorry U R going through all of this. Practically speaking I think U
should get your phone # changed. This will stop the calls when they're having sex. I think U should go to the police about the death threats. Even if U don't think their serious,having a police report can help U get a restraining order. If your ex-girlfriend is truly better,perhaps having a restraining order will get het out of the community center which will make it easier for you to use the community center. The other avenue is to go through your individual counselor or psych doc. U can't let ANYTHING get in the way of U getting the help that U
need.

[aern01]

Djinn8,
How R doing today??

[Djinn8]

Originally Posted by aern01

Djinn8,
How R doing today??

Hi Aern. Thanks for asking I'm having a pretty good day to be honest. A buddy of mine gave me some pills that have been helping me out: Codiene Phosphate, which are a pain killer foremost but they seem to keep me calm. So yeah, Illicit drugs FTW. Been having a nice chat with a hot girl on OKCupid too, which is nice.

How are you?