trying to be strong

Hi there
I am new to the site and found it in one of my many searchs for help.
I was diagnosed with depression when i was 16 and have been on meds ever since -i am now 24.
At no point have i been offered methods to get through these feelings and i have just muddled through with support.
I have had so many stressful things happen to me -moving across the country to a big city and knowing no one for a promotion.
having my new manager let me down and changing jobs again when he informed me i was not what he thought i would be. My boyfriend cheated on me and went back to an ex within a month of us moving in.
I miss my family and friends i wonder if i can make it in my company and above all i am lost.....

jb

Hello jaybee

This is a good place for more support as we here have experienced the same things you are feeling and can understand.

When you say "At no point have i been offered methods to get through these feelings" I assume you mean you were only treated with meds and never had any therapy? I firmly believe that therapy is an important part of the road to better emotional health. The meds can help "fix" the chemical imbalance that causes the depression to linger but they aren't meant to make you feel "happier". Therapy helps give you skills that can get you through those rough feelings, establish more confidence, and make changes in your life and your way of thinking that can help avoid periods of depression or lessen their severity.

I hope you can find a therapist where you are now and begin treatment on a regular basis. Keep trying until you find a therapist that you trust and that you feel is helping you. You should also reestablish a relationship with a doctor in your new location to check on your meds, sometimes over time the dosage needs to be adjusted or the medication switched to remain effective.

For support, in addition to this forum, there are lots of free support groups around the country that can be helpful. Someone in your community, maybe your new therapist, can tell you where to get a list of support groups so you can find one locally that is convenient.

Good luck. Help is available.

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Welcome jaybee. You won't believe this, but try and work on it: at your age you have time to make good decisions that will last a lifetime! I agree, find a therapist if you can, and work through what issues you can.

Being on meds for depression is a good thing, and try not to think of it as negative. Sometimes the body just quits making the chemicals we need to live a balanced life. They might need to be adjusted some, especially with the increased stress you are experiencing just now.

Come back and post often. Lots of ppl with good support here.

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Welcome to the forum. I can't add much to what has already been suggested.
mark

Though inland far we be,
Our souls have sight of that immortal sea
Which brought us hither.
William Wordsworth (1770–1850)

Hi, I can relate to in some things. Moving away and starting a new life is hard, no matter what age. I am 4* and moved away from my hometown 4 yrs ago. I hate where I am, HATE IT...I miss my family and friends, it is not always easy making new friends, and we all need friends. Some people have no problem with moving away from family and friends, I didn't think I would, but, it has made me miserable.

Have you thought of moving back home, you moved away, you can go back. As for your boyfriend. Well,, just think of it this way, NEXT,,,,there are plenty more where he "didn't come from" you don't want another like him. Take some advice..give yourself about 6 months before you jump into another relationship. You know what you don't want, give yourself time to find out what you do want! There is nothing greater than knowing you can do it on your own, it gives you a great sense of confidence. I learned the hard way, jumping from one frying pan to the other only gets you burned. twice.

Yeah i have to fight not wanting to run home but i somehow know on my good days that i have the strenghth and ability to make it in my company. If i can then ultimmately i will be moved again hopefully closer to my loved ones.
As for the break up i am trying to learn to love myself and not rely on others for reassurance and love but i get lonely sometimes.
Sometimes i miss the nathan i knew -or thought he was. Everything seemed so easy when i was with him -i could cope with everything.

just a thought.maybe you weren't coping.maybe he was enabling you....

Hey Jaybee, I know what you are going through with the whole boyfriend thing. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple of months ago she also cheated on me with an ex. I really feel lonely myself alot, but you have to just try to go out with friends and also try to find new ones because it really helps with the lonely feelings and you never know when you least expect it someone will come into your life and fill that void you feel. Until then you have to just get out and have fun and enjoy life.