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Old Nov 25, 2013, 05:51 AM
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Anyone know?

I have been in two 'relationships' in the past year but they have been mostly physical and there has been a power imbalance as well.

I have never been in a normal, mutually respectful, loving relationship, where I received care and attention in equal measure.

Has anybody been lucky enough to experience this?
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Old Nov 25, 2013, 06:03 AM
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Old Nov 25, 2013, 07:03 AM
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Old Nov 25, 2013, 08:44 AM
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Yes, I am in a good relationship. We spend day after day together, talk constantly and yet I am never bored of him. He makes me feel comfortable and we can sit together each doing our own separate thing and never feel ignored. He gives me the attention I need, understands my moods and what not to say. I understand his weaknesses, know what will make him happy and don't push him to do anything he doesn't want to.
We have been together three years and plan on getting married.
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Old Nov 25, 2013, 06:35 PM
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Its magical

We love and accept eachother "worts and all", we both know that come what may, "this is it, it is you..." we trust that the other has our best intentions at heart. We've been tried and tested through no fault of our own, and realized that neither time nor distance diminishes or even changes a damn thing between us. Our love is timeless. We laugh together, we've cried together, he's held me as I wept, I've reassured him as he stumbled. We can have long talks about anything and everything, or we can sit in comfortable silence, sharing secret smiles.

Love is sO much more than an emotion, it is a shared experience, a shared state of being, truelly a wonderous experience, that I am ever so grateful for.
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Old Nov 25, 2013, 11:20 PM
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It's surreal, is what it's like, sometimes. When I stop and think about where I've been, what I've been through.
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Old Nov 26, 2013, 06:20 AM
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Yes, I am in a good relationship.
What does he do for a job?

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Its magical .
What do you both do for a living?

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IT,

It's surreal, is what it's like, sometimes.
What is his occupation?
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Old Nov 26, 2013, 06:31 AM
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Why the job related questions IT?

His job, or lack thereof has no baring on love. Admittedly though, his passion for his future career is damn right sexy to me, but we weren't discussing attraction were we.

Anyway, for the record, I'm doing nothing and will go back to admin when I rejoin the rat race next year. He's job in another city at an Events Planning Company is on hold and possibly tanking due to legal matters, but his chosen career is Yacht Master.
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Old Nov 26, 2013, 07:13 AM
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Why the job related questions IT?

His job, or lack thereof has no baring on love. Admittedly though, his passion for his future career is damn right sexy to me, but we weren't discussing attraction were we.
I'm interested in what makes up a relationship, so occupation may be part of that.

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Anyway, for the record, I'm doing nothing and will go back to admin when I rejoin the rat race next year. He's job in another city at an Events Planning Company is on hold and possibly tanking due to legal matters, but his chosen career is Yacht Master.
He wants to be a boat captain?
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Old Nov 26, 2013, 07:27 AM
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What he does for a living,is a bit personal, don't you feel? Considering, where we met. Why not look on his profile, find out yourself.

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Old Nov 26, 2013, 07:31 AM
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He wants to be a boat captain?
That it is correct, he wants to sail luxury yachts. He's been studying for ages because he had to do so part time. But like they say, slow and steady wins the race, he's nearly completed his studies.
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Old Nov 26, 2013, 07:33 AM
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I'm interested in what makes up a relationship, so occupation may be part of that.


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What makes up, a 'good' relationship, and 'occupation', being a part of that, two different things.

A good relationship, is a healthy relationship.

You're now bringing outer appearances, to this definition.

Because occupation does that.

Blue collar, we both are. Hard working laborers, both.


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Old Dec 01, 2013, 10:08 PM
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I had a great guy, great relationship, completely in love. He taught me how
to truly be in love; still say we were soulmates.. however i pushed him away
w my messed up self.,.. but it wuz great, we were bff,lovers and partners. we lived
together for a yr. i miss him all the time.
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Old Dec 02, 2013, 03:18 AM
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IT...

My wife has my heart and I have hers.

We've been together for close to 40 years. Neither one of us can imagine a time when we weren't each others better half.

I dunno... It would take me hours and hours to tell you about what's magic about the love my wife and I share... but I suppose it's best summed up simply by saying that we each share a deeply intimate connection with each other that is intuitive, emotional, physical, intellectual and spiritual. Not only do we love each other, but we are IN LOVE with each other. And, we really like being together too!... But we also love spending time apart too. Ya know, it's really hard for me to write this stuff... because I'm not doing it justice.

Over the years she and I have had our share of disagreements. We've even had a few fights. But, in all the years we've been together I can tell you honestly that we've always respected and admired each other. We've never once gone to sleep angry, hurt or upset.

My wife is the center of my universe... and I hers. The focus of my life is to facilitate and support her happiness and to be the person she knows me to be... and she does the same for me.

Anyway, I don't know if this is what you wanted to know about or not, but, there it is.

Although it's somewhat rarer than it should be, two people CAN live their lives together in complete harmony, trust, love and connectedness. My wife and I are proof of that.
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Old Dec 02, 2013, 04:34 AM
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"Good" relationship is - relative. It could be worse - far worse, and it could be better.
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Old Dec 12, 2013, 03:19 PM
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