friends stuff

if a friend makes you feel bad should you stop being friends? its been going on for a while and im just over it now. has anyone here had to do that?

I've had friendships end. They became too toxic, or we've grown apart or other reasons. If it leaves you feeling bad about yourself, and after talking with your friend, if change isn't made, what's the point in friendship?

I agree. Thanks for the support. We definitely tried to salvage it, but I feel like it is passed the point of no return. We just aren't good for each other anymore. We had a lot of fun during the first part of our friendship which makes me wish we could still have that, but I guess it is time to let go.

Yes, been there and kind of there again now A lot of closeness and fun and support at first, then only intermittently between trying hard and being disappointed ... sick of finding that some apparently great friendships turn out to be 'seasonal'

And for all levels of relating, I totally agree with Healingme4me - "If it leaves you feeling bad about yourself... what's the point in friendship?"

This is hard because you have the memories of the good parts. But if it has changed, feels bad, is becoming hurtful or toxic to you, sadly, for your own sake you need to let it go.

I am going through this right now. My friend & I mutually & simultaneously let go, then after a year I started getting contacted again. I was glad and tried to be happy about it, but I was cautious. Then all the bad energy started up again, as I feared it would. There is a sort of 'human vortex'/ 'toxic black hole' aspect I just cannot tolerate anymore.
Now I am being less available. I have to protect me first... I need my energy for me...

Thanks guys. sorry for the long time to reply but I just want to let you guys know I appreciate the support. I have cut the tie between her and I, and I am feeling much better about myself and more confident. we were so unhealthy for each other. I don't want to be sucked into the vortex again! lol. it really is true that no company is better than bad company.

I can't even reply to this with advice cos am goin they same and reading everythjng here is putting my life in perspective also. Xxx thanks again I love this forum x