Ok so I know I've bored you all with my situation related to my online gaming girl stuff but I have to ask this question.

So the other day she was rather busy and later I found out that she hadn't been in a "gaming mood" lately.. but this was before I knew that.

She was off doing her own thing for awhile and after I'd said "let me know if you decide to play a game with me" and she just said "alright" and was online but quiet for quite some time. now those of you that know me, can venture to guess what went through my mind and how I felt about this disconnection at the time. yeah exactly, you know what I am saying So in the midst of this negative thinking I got rather down about it. I had a mini panic attack and went off line, completely. Which I rarely do. I went off and left the hotel for a bit and wandered around shopping for a bit.

Came back an hour later to a message on my chat. "You left without saying goodbye to me! D: " Which I was kind of shocked to see. Up to this point, I'd assumed sure, she was online but she wasn't paying attention to if I was online and even if she saw I figured she wouldn't think twice about it, having been busy or something. So I told her sorry, and asked "did I upset you?" and she replied matter-of-fact, "yes." Explained to her that "I didn't mean to" and she just told me "I know."

Anyway so that's a small thing I'm sure and I tend to over think things so I'm here asking you, what's your interpretation? Is that just a trivial thing or is it saying something for her to mention she was upset that I didn't say goodbye?

Sorry if this seems trivial but I'm really poking around in the dark when it comes to the ladies. Thanks for your help.

~S4

[manwithnofriends]

...that's the problem with online communication. No body language, no facial expressions, no tone of voice. So you can't really tell how she's feeling. If you know her personally I believe it would have been a lot easier to deal with this and it wouldn't have hurt you so much to have asked others about it.

Originally Posted by manwithnofriends

...that's the problem with online communication. No body language, no facial expressions, no tone of voice. So you can't really tell how she's feeling. If you know her personally I believe it would have been a lot easier to deal with this and it wouldn't have hurt you so much to have asked others about it.

Well to be honest, theres no difference to me. IRL it would be the same. body language? Hmm everyone has an opinion how that matters so much yet, with flirting in real life it's no less difficult. I miss cues just the same.

Also for the most part, I feel online interaction isn't all bad. Why? all you have is communication, no distraction from her attractiveness being in the way. NO sexual tension in the early stages. I'm not looking for a sex partner per se, I'd rather have a friend first and getting to know them online is more streamlined. How do I mean? IRL dating as I understand it, you're busy making dates, doing extra curricular things like dinner, movies, and such and to be honest rarely do people make a date to hang out, sit around talking about life and getting to know each other. I think this is one of hte biggest downfalls of dating. Online all you have is communication, as I've said. You're forced to use words and talk things out, and to me, I get to know people better online than someone I meet on the street. Granted, I'm not saying I would never want to meet a girl I'm talking to, but initiating it all online and getting to know one another this way isn't all bad as so many people make it out to be.

[FrayedEnds]

hmm..I think it's possible that she was hoping for some non-gaming attention from you. She's not in a gaming mood but is still in the (game?) chat...and was upset when you went offline without talking to her first. See what I'm thinking?

Originally Posted by FrayedEnds

hmm..I think it's possible that she was hoping for some non-gaming attention from you. She's not in a gaming mood but is still in the (game?) chat...and was upset when you went offline without talking to her first. See what I'm thinking?

That's how I took it too. thanks for your reply. Just hate it when I over think something and misunderstand... and then I do something stupid.. so that helps.