Does anyone know?

I need to find out the profile of someone who has a hotmail account because my fiance has been emailing her and has now given her his phone # and told her to call during the exact hours that we are not together everyday he said they should meet up for lunch because she is going away to school. Is there anyway I can find out who this girl is through hotmail?

Jenna,

Ouch! Frankly, before I would do all this, I'd ask him to sit down and talk to you. Get HIM talking about her - ask him why he is asking her to call when you're not together and why he's been emailing her. Confront him with that and he's got to either a)explain who she is and why he's doing this - he actually may have a reasonable explanation in which case only your gut can tell you if he's up to no good or b)refuse to explain, in which case pack your bags.

Before you talk to him though, you need to think about how good this information is and who you heard it from. People don't always have the best motives in their hearts, so you need to decide whether or not you can give any credence to this information.

I really hope it's not what we think! Good luck.

Anna

some of it's magic
some of it's tragic
but i had a good life all the way......
~jimmy buffett

Perfect advice

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

No I don't know if that would even be legal.

As for your fiance, let him be what he's going to be... better to find out now, than after you are married! If they are "together" then he may realize it won't work between you two... and if you push NOW, he might only give you lies, marry and make you miserable AND trapped.

Then again, he might be meeting with a wedding planner or such???

One can ony hope.

<font color=green>...I can misspeak like the best of us</font color=green>

I know that whoever this girl is she and him have not seen eachother in 5 years ay least and i know that she has a young(2 or 3 yrs.old) daughter. But the newest news on this front is that he asked where she lived (not an address) just where technically she lives in NH. I don't know what I will do if I lose him he is my whole world! I think if he meets with her for lunch or coffee just to even talk and he hides it from me that i am going to have to leave him because I will not allow my self to live this kind of life, always wondering and having knots in my stomach. why does he have to do this? Why are guys so hurtful to the ones who love them the most

If you two are engaged, he may want to make sure his feelings for her are over, because marriage is a giant step, and it's important to know that past loves are completely over. Marriage on the horizon sometimes causes a person to think about every person in their lives and what that person meant to them.

He may be keeping it from you because he doesn't want to hurt you. I know, truth is better, but some of us can't handle the truth very well. Sometimes truth is uncomfortable, so people who love us, think perhaps it's better we don't know.

I'm not sure how you found out about this, but if you have some secret way of knowing what he's doing without him knowing that you can, perhaps you had your doubts before.

As another poster said, better to find out what you are dealing with now before you get married. Coupledom is a tough road, especially if we have friends of the opposite sex, who may or may not be seen as a threat to our relationships. If he likes to have friends of both sexes, then you must decide if that's something you can handle.

Choices, it's all about choices.