[rolan86]

So I have been wanting to meet this girl for over a year now, but I have NEVER had the opportunity. I find her so beautiful, and I would ask her out in a heart beat. Only thing is, I've always been to shy to approach her. I always see her from afar. And when we do cross paths, it catches me so off guard I freeze up and look down away from her. I get a slight stuttering problem when I get nervous, so that has been one of the reasons I always avoided saying hi, especially when it would just be out of the blue. But last night I had the perfect opportunity. I was with my housemate at the local pizza shop at night, and then I see her and her friend walk in. We were already sitting down eating as she was in line with a friend. I wanted so much to approach her but I didn't know what to say.

To just go up to her, while her friend was there and introduce myself just felt like it would be creepy and invasive. So I didn't. I just ended up talking to my friends around me, and basically just tried to act cool, like I didn't even notice her. It's a weird feeling. I try so hard to look like I don't acknowledge her presence, while I am trying so desperately hard to get her attention. I always do this, as ridiculous as it sounds, and it is really starting to frustrate me. Why do I always do this?? Maybe she did notice me, but I didn't approach her. I just didn't see an opportunity!!! She was talking to her friend, I was talking to mine, and there was no overlap. I tried smiling at her, but it just wasn't enough. Maybe if we were waiting in line together and she said something like ohh.. I wonder if this pizza is good... or wooow this place gets crazy at night! (it's where all the drunk college kids go at 2 in the morning basically), I would have said something humorous to her to make conversation. but no. no opportunity. So I ended up leaving with my friend, never talking to her. It was a very odd and frustrating combination of feeling very huge regret, but at the same time, a sense of understanding in that I didn't blame myself for it, since there was no opportunity, so I couldn't be too mad at myself. I still feel really bad though

[kaliope]

think about how bad you feel each time you don't say anything to her, the days you suffer. if you say something to her, the worst that is going to happen is she is going to say she isn't interested. then at least you will have an answer. is that going to make you feel any worse than you are feeling now? perhaps you can work your way up to it by talking to other girls and get some practice first. take care.

[unaluna]

Okay next time you just say hey hi how are you doing. If she responds, fine. If she doesnt thats fine too. You can always say, oh sorry i thought you were somebody else.

Like somebody who would be nice, but you dont have to say that part out loud!