[Grey Matter]

My dad and I never had an A+ relationship. Ever. He is, when he so chooses to be, supportive of me in the most apathetic sense possible.

My mom had been saving up money for the holidays, bills, etc. Needless to say, my father (who has DONE this before) blamed me. The crippled adult child of his that can't leave the house LET ALONE would NEVER steal from their mother. Or anyone, for that matter.

He screamed at me, said I "hid it some where" and he burst into my room, that I just organized (I have severe OCD. I put things in places to keep people safe) and he destroyed it all looking for money I DON'T. BLOODY. HAVE.

I am so angry and so resentful of him normally, now I am just a mess and TIRED OF THIS he blames me for EVERYTHING even a god damn ice cube tray not being filled, that's some how my doing and deserves 50 minutes of screaming it me.

I am a mess. now someones going to get hurt because the things I had set protecting people are moved and i cant fix it and it's HIS FAULT.

[curley]

Hi Grey, Besides your room being a mess I know it can be very frustrating to be accused of something ridiculous. Hope the cash shows up and he owes you an apology ...at least

[Grey Matter]

He still hasn't fessed up to himself using the money, which he did. So I'm not really hopeful for an apology to come up.

I just don't know how to handle it.

[AngstyLady]

Damn, you're father sounds like a psycho! I'm so sorry you have to put up with that ish ! Maybe you can look into assisted living somewhere else? I can't imagine that your mom is ok with his behavior? Does she know about it? Maybe he can be removed from the situation and you both can left in peace.

[Grey Matter]

I am hopefully moving in with my partner soon. It's just a matter of timing. My mom wasn't happy in the slightest, this is not the first time he has accused me of stealing money. He usually takes the money and tends to blame it on the most emotionally unstable person in the house. Which is usually me. The first time he pulled this, I was 14. I got home and my parents were sitting there, my mom telling me she wasn't mad, she just wanted to know. My dad sat there, after spending the money, and just let my poor mother think it was a possibility.

She figured out it was him. She never believed it was me.

The thing is both of my parents are disabled (my mom was hurt in an accident, my dad is in the last stages of kidney failure) so the likely hood of them separating is slim to none. They need to be together for their disability benefits and such.

My mom kept checking on me all day because it was just too much. I don't like when people yell at me, yet alone blame me for something so outrageous. My mom knows I didn't take the money, which is what matters. But my dad is sticking to his story, saying how he knows I took it. Trust me if I took 900 bucks I'd be out of the house and in my life partners apartment NOW.

I just can't deal with this stress, especially when I am in physical pain and the damn holidays are coming up. He wont let this go. I don't even know what to do tomorrow. My mom made him apologize and he did it so sarcastically that I just ended up crying.

today was too much.

[Switch]

I'm sorry you went though this.

I am glad you are going to be moving out soon. Really glad. How your dad is treating you is abusive and you need to get out. It is going to be extremely hard to try and heal if you can't feel safe anywhere, and it is impossible to feel safe with someone abusive around.

I'm very glad your mom is on your side Grey.

Keep staying strong and deal with things one moment at a time. Do not take anything your dad says about you to heart because he's just saying it to hurt you.

stay safe