[veronicamarie]

I just got into a fight with my boyfriend over three years he can be very mean when we argue well he always expects me to do everything for him he was spoiled growing up so that explains alot ive done alot for him and hes one to like always be the victim even if it was his wrong doing hes hard to live with and his family knows this I put up with alot well when we argue he can be very mean and he will say a bunch of things that has nothing to do with what we are arguing about I suffer from anexity ive been for three years now and he knows this it gets so bad that I can't work and I have to be at home im like imprisoned in my house if I leave I get bad anexity even if I take a walk around the block I get it bad so right now im not working im home everyday and when we argue he calls me lazy and that I don't work like throwing it in my face and it's like I have a reason not to a serious one I just can't it makes me feel like crap that he thinks that way of me no one has ever ive been working since I was 14 im 22 now I've always been very motivated the only reason im not working is because the anexity got so bad I hate that he thinks this way of me he sees me having anexity attacks its no joke he sees what it does to me im thinking I shouldn't be with someone who thinks this way of me I tell him all the time I don't think he can handle being with someone with anexity disorder im just so confusdd and feel like crap because how he makes me feel

[manwithnofriends]

or, he's completely narcissistic and wants to take advantage of you.

[healingme4me]

The part about him calling you names, putting you down, and taking the exact point of the argument in different directions, it's nothing because he doesn't accept anxiety disorders.
Sounds like, he never learned to argue fair. That probably won't change. it would take an immense amount of therapy, for him to peel,back the layers of his own dysfunction, and to do that, he'd need a tremendous desire to change.
Until then, how are you going to internally stop from self vilifying due to his confusing, manipulative style. I call it manipulative, due to mention of tangents, during arguments.


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[veronicamarie]

You are right that's how he is and he honestly thinks and feels is that he is doing nothing wrong like that whole fight happened and he will be like your the one who started arguing with me and all honestly he is the one who started yelling he is in such denial like what me and you know right from wrong he thinks the opposite and it blows my mind how he thinks he does nothing wrong I mean my family and friends and i know how I am so whatever he says he don't make me believe what he thinks of me I know who I am it just bothers me that the one I love is like this I do think he might be bipolar tho it's like he's two completely different people and he honestly don't work not like I thought we use to I just don't know how to leave the person I love and not just that I know I will be depressed and not eat or sleep and I just don't want to deal with that I don't want to not eat or sleep I try to avoid all of that and just stay even tho im not happy because how he truely thinks of me I wish there was something a pill to take to make you stop loving a person

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