[Freewilled]

I have a very big problem in my marriage and I don't know what to do. My husband and I disagree on a fundamental level about how to raise our son. When my husband gets too stern with him, I get upset. I try to not say anything but once I feel he has crossed the line so to speak, I find myself intervening and we fight. I am in my own personal therapy for depression/anxiety and I just cannot handle it. I feel like I'm being triggered. My T said I needed to decide whether I want to leave my husband or stay and work on it. He strongly suggested marital therapy 2 months ago but I was too afraid. I want to go now because I feel like I'm making progress in therapy and when these fights happen I fall backwards. Does marriage counseling work?

[Rose3]

Could you try meeting with several marriage counsellors to check them out, and see if any of them seem like people who will listen to your concerns, and then try to help you (and eventually your husband) sort out the difficulties?

[healingme4me]

It can work, if both you and your husband are willing to try it. These arguments over your husband crossing the line, with how he addresses your child, are they in front of your child?

[Freewilled]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

It can work, if both you and your husband are willing to try it. These arguments over your husband crossing the line, with how he addresses your child, are they in front of your child?

Unfortunately, sometimes they are. But I've tried my best to minimize it so that it's more often after the fact.