[pleiades06]

I am having a hard morning...I am afraid I will stuck abroad forever. I am missing so much in the States. My cousin is getting married in June. I can't take my son out of school to go (the country I live in refuses to let me!), so either I go alone with my daughter and leave my son behind with my husband or I wait until July to fly with both of them. My cousin asked me today if my daughter can be in the wedding...I am so sad. I would love her to be, but I won't leave my son alone here with my husband. The last time I left him alone wit him, my husband left our son with others the entire time and seemed to ignore him. And my husband is refusing to come this summer, and I don"t want my son to fly alone...it is a very long flight to do alone at his age. Sad that my husband is refusing to support me at all. And refusing to do things that he promised to do. We had an agreement --he promised that he would allow me to return to the States with the kids to live--and now he is going back on his promise. I know he is allowed to chnage his mind, but I would have NEVER EVER come to this country with my kids if I had known he wouldn't allow them to return with me. So sad--so scared to learn what my options are.

[shezbut]

(((((Pleiades06))))))

Sounds like your hub is very determined to rear his son HIS way, and not let your input mean much. It's good that you have the freedom to take yourself & your daughter to your cousin's wedding....that is encouraging. However, that would be really tough to leave your son behind ~ especially knowing that most of that time without you & his sister probably won't include much of Dad either. Very tough situation indeed!

What country are you living in right now? Some countries still lean towards Dad having all the rights in parenting. Others are becoming much better at equal rights. Have you looked into this country's political viewpoint on parenting? You are still a US citizen, correct? Perhaps you should contact the US embassy in the country you're currently in, to get a complete explanation of your rights and what you CAN do??

Very gentle hugs to you ~ I wish you the very best!

[pleiades06]

Thanks. Yes, my kids and I are US citizens (my kids have 3 citizenship) and I plan to contact the embassy...just really scared of what they will say. I am trying to gather the strength to deal but but my anxiety about the future is great I can barely move

[Rose3]

That's great for you to plan to contact the embassy - so prepare your questions, and calmly go forward. Perhaps their answers won't be what you wish to hear, but that is not yet known - maybe they will have useful information for you. You have the strength to proceed. Is there anyone else who could assist with care of your son, if you are away?