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One of my closet friends told me something during a period of time that I was disassociated. She's now angry with me because she brought it up later and I had no idea what she was talking about. She thinks that I just blew her off and ignored her when in reality, I don't remember anything that happened over the course of a few days. We are close enough that she knows about my PTSD and other mental health problems. I told her that I was disassociated and don't remember. She's now even more mad saying that isn't an excuse to blowing her off.

... what? How to I explain this to her?

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What you wrote here seems pretty simple and clear ("I don't remember anything that happened over the course of a few days"). I think the way you explain it may not matter so much if you accompany the explanation with a lot of apologizing for not remembering what she said.

Is there any way for her to tell when you are disassociated?

How much does your friend know about your mental health issues, e.g. PTSD? Does she know the ways in which they affect you? To those who have not experienced mental illness, it can be difficult to understand how PTSD can affect one's interactions, and that your responses during a problematic episode do not signify a lack of caring. Maybe she perceives "PTSD" and "dissociation" as vague words, and does not understand the depth of how they affect you. Good luck.

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. She's now even more mad saying that isn't an excuse to blowing her off.

... what? How to I explain this to her?[/QUOTE]

Your retort could be:

"ABC, you were mad at me yesterday, and I wanted to tell you that being ignorant is not an excuse for stopping to be a good friend. Please DO take the time to learn - and a collection of links to info that explains your condition"