I've already deleted the scarce amount of information I've put on my bio because it's all been used against me so far. So, what am I supposed to say about myself other than I exist? Or is someone going to make fun of that too?

I'm about ready to delete it again…it's pointless if I'm just going to get made fun of. I'm unsure about my pictures now too because of comments about my hair…which I'm very sensitive about.

Hey, I guess I am just a big joke! This is why no one likes me that way in real life too then.

[Alt77]

You gotta learn not to care so much about what anyone else thinks. I say **** em.

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[marmaduke]

I don't see why anyone would make fun of your profile, if they do then they are morons.
Maybe you need to try a different dating site some are better than others.
Don't worry about what other people think, I wasted YEARS doing that, now I'm older I don't give a f##k.

[Webgoji]

Online dating profiles seem to be troll-bait. There's a story in the news about those:

Comedian creates ?worst online dating profile ever? as social experiment - NY Daily News

The author of the profile used her friend's picture and put up the absolute worst possible profile she could imagine. And guys FLOCKED to it because of the pretty girl in picture. Long story short, I guess an online profile is like fishing; you have wade through a ton of carp just to get one darn bluegill.

Originally Posted by Webgoji

Online dating profiles seem to be troll-bait. There's a story in the news about those:

Comedian creates ?worst online dating profile ever? as social experiment* - NY Daily News

The author of the profile used her friend's picture and put up the absolute worst possible profile she could imagine. And guys FLOCKED to it because of the pretty girl in picture. Long story short, I guess an online profile is like fishing; you have wade through a ton of carp just to get one darn bluegill.

Oh yeah, I read the original article. To me, there's a difference for someone just interested in sex and not paying attention to personality or anything else to carefully reading someone's profile just to find the one thing to make fun of that will definitely hurt the person's feelings. But that's just me.

Oh yeah, I just noticed on the linked article that the comedian who wrote the fake profile also met someone she's dating on the same site. So I have this feeling that it really is just me.

Has anyone else ever experienced this? Or do they just hate the way I look or who I am? I thought I was a good person with above average looks, but hey, I've been wrong before!

Maybe it's because I really just don't fit in with anybody my age?

[Trippin2.0]

Do you mind telling us what type of info is /was on your profile? I'm having a hard time grasping what kind of info would be suitable for ammo and used to make fun of someone.

Forgive my ignorance, I'm unfamiliar with online dating and can only imagine the type of trolls that may hang out on dating websites.

I'm thinking that if you share your bio with us, you may just receive the proper guidance for a successful profile. Kind of like a personal resumé that we can help tweak...

I wish I hadn't deleted it all then…

But some of the targets were what I look like and my aspiring career/level of education. At the moment, I'm trying to get back into the university world and probably teach at a university. And I have glasses…so their response was, "Nice glasses, professor."

And another sent me a compliment about my hair and I thanked him and so we were talking and I said something about wondering why I was still awake (as it was 4 AM) and so since I stopped responding to his messages, he went back and said that he was just kidding, that [my hair] is fake. Yes, genius, my hair is dyed.

I've been having trouble saying anything at all since I feel anything I say is just ammo for ridicule because I'm just TOO different. This is also why I didn't have friends until recently when I found a group of people who didn't make me feel stupid for not being able to do basic tasks sometimes and where I didn't feel as afraid of saying the wrong thing etc.

I don't know what to say other than I'm most likely going back to college next fall. I can't think of anything else that wouldn't be a turnoff to someone that I hadn't have already met (or would meet) in real life. I probably should finish my business on there and delete it once and for all.

[cdnomore]

I really really don't like the OlD scene, its just filled with predatory, egocentric types it seems to me...its so easy for people to be cruel and heartless...I avoid it like the plague.
I won't be dating for a while, and certainly not online dating, I'll take my chances with real life possibilities when the time is right, being able to get all the cues and intuitive clues that we get from face to face contact is essential to a healthy start...not to mention all the people on there who get rewarded for the WORST behavior.
I sympathize with that feeling of insecurity you have about that vulnerability you risk by putting up your picture and details about yourself.
I'm really sorry that a-holes gave you such a pile of crap.
I am sure you don't deserve it at all...my impression from your posts is that you have a really awesome sense of humor, and wit, you have great intellegence and reasoning ability, and look at you, finishing school like you are is going to get you far in life.

Is there any way to create an online dating profile that people won't make fun of?

NOPE. People make fun of babies, the elderly, all things good and every cherished one has had rocks thrown at them. Welcome to Earth, Baby! <3

So every single chick's profile on every dating site is made fun of? I doubt that. I suppose the only way to not get made fun of is to be hot, super skinny, and not too smart (at least not higher than average).

But forget it, this isn't taken seriously. I guess I'm the only one who's had this problem.

I wouldn't ever bother with online dating if people weren't so quick to judge in real life. Just because I'm kind of masculine doesn't mean I'm 100% gay…but guys just apparently assume that I am or something because I'm not THAT unattractive. Plus girls are SO much easier to flirt with it's ridiculous.

(((I.AM.THE.END.))) Don't give up, shake dem haters off!!!

People are a**holes my friend. I am there with you. I hate scoffers. If they think its funny or flirtatious, think again. Have you tried plenty of fish?

Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.

So every single chick's profile on every dating site is made fun of? I doubt that. I suppose the only way to not get made fun of is to be hot, super skinny, and not too smart (at least not higher than average).

But forget it, this isn't taken seriously. I guess I'm the only one who's had this problem.

I wouldn't ever bother with online dating if people weren't so quick to judge in real life. Just because I'm kind of masculine doesn't mean I'm 100% gay…but guys just apparently assume that I am or something because I'm not THAT unattractive. Plus girls are SO much easier to flirt with it's ridiculous.

The camera hates me. I am told I am pretty but something about the shape of my face... I can think of two pictures in my lifetime... Flukes. I am not a good online dating candidate. But even if I were it is way too shallow.

Honestly, you really don't strike me as the online dating type. It is very shallow because almost all you are looking at is a picture. 90% of what you glean from the picture and profile is in you head. There just isn't enough information to make a reasonable assessment so you make most of it up without even realizing it. If you could go to some meetup or other groups that offer something you would be interested in I think you would see how much energy you are wasting on this.

They don't make fun of dumb blondes? Are you kidding?

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[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.

Maybe it's because I really just don't fit in with anybody my age?

Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.

I wish I hadn't deleted it all then…

But some of the targets were what I look like and my aspiring career/level of education. At the moment, I'm trying to get back into the university world and probably teach at a university. And I have glasses…so their response was, "Nice glasses, professor."

And another sent me a compliment about my hair and I thanked him and so we were talking and I said something about wondering why I was still awake (as it was 4 AM) and so since I stopped responding to his messages, he went back and said that he was just kidding, that [my hair] is fake. Yes, genius, my hair is dyed.

I could get into a whole shallow, creepy dissertation about online dating, and that's based on a one week, experience. Don't really want to insult any honest and good men, out there(or women), but let's remember, who created match.com, and what site, he'd created prior to creating match.com. (though, just one of many online dating sites, but my experience on there, knowing how the techie hacker types can be, really got under my last nerve!) Ok, he created sex.com before founding match.com. Realized, this after doing a little research, when those tech types switched around my profile photo..thanks you depraved creepy tech dude(or hey, dudette) over there...went for the shot that shows my curvy body, over the profile photo, that it clearly requested...
Then, to lure you into paying, they plant one, right into your inbox, gotta pay to have that thing open, right. First thought, was ooh, ok, I'll see what this one has to say. yeah...it was a name, doesn't meet the face and if he didn't understand what I meant, when I asked, if he did any salsa dancing, then clearly, all is not as it appears((don't mean to trigger anyone with paranoia, in this one, do I need a trigger happy button?)) he didn't seem to know what I meant. Then, I had another one, like that, who then, double emails me, you know, the type that emails go back and forth, well, he skipped a turn and double emailed hoping he wasn't offending me?! huh?1 what?! yeah, clingy insecure dude, I'm all set. Salsa? huh, what is that?

Then the ones that ignored my profile, entirely, I hate feeling unheard, kwim? It's a huge 'need', soooooo, that didn't fly. I mentioned an ideal date would be you know, taking in a ball game? Do you think, any of these, at this point, trolls of theirs that keep the money rolling in with a little attention, bothered, suggesting that? No. E-mail, I wrote, let's see...then pops out, the Hi, how's your day, my day is swell, bye, ttyl, for a few days...

Oooohhhh, bEST PART?!?! My ex husband, get's matched up with ME?! His Ex Wife!! Good job, there, fantastic match!! woot woot(<---spoken dryly, with tons of sarcasm)

When he and I were on friendly terms, before the summer jealous rage fall out, he told me, there was crud there, too.

So, um, maybe it's a matter of riding it out, spending your dollars?? Just to have some trolls taunt you, for what? To get you to try harder to appeal to their perversions? see what I mean?

There's got to be a better way, and this in no way, takes away from anyone reading who has had any ounce of success, on these places. I just remind myself, where the creative genius originated from.

What a colossal coincidence (if it exists lol)!!! Thanks for sharing healingme4me!

[ptangptang]

I don't know what dating site you went on and why people would insult or make fun of you. I don't know what you wrote (not that that would be an excuse anyway of course.But it works both ways with girls putting down guys or not even giving them a chance so that they feel like ####. Try and develop a thicker skin. I've recently gone on a couple of dating sites and ( as LB says 'welcome to the world') Have confidence in yourself. I'm a great guy and for the most part what people think of me is water off a ducks back. I'm a great guy and i'm sure you're a great girl. Who cares what other people think. If they don't want to be part of your life so what thats their loss. The worlds full of aholes who can only get their kicks from mistreating others, dont let em win.

First of all, I'm pretty involved in a community group, I've been to meet ups, and I play in two community bands. So, I have plenty of involvement with real life people and when I go back to college, I'll be around tons of people day in and day out.

I think my main problem is that I'm more interested in guys than girls at the moment and I can find girls who like me, just no guys. Apparently, it freaks guys out in real life that I would like them…keep in mind that I may be more masculine and don't identify as straight up "female", but I have female equipment as it were. And I clearly look female at the moment. I may not after I'm physically able to do weight training (I'm working through a messed up back and all that), but if nothing else, I have long hair and an effeminate face. So, I honestly don't understand the apparent confusion of guys.

And I'm limited to what sites I can join. I don't do paid sites and I have to have a site where I don't have to choose whether I'm straight or gay because I'm neither.

A lot of the animosity towards me seemed to come from the fact that I'm better educated than most on that site (probably most in general).

healingme4me-I'm sorry the site tried to match you with your ex. That's terrible. Fortunately(?), I don't have any exes that this moment and I was matched with this dude that I already liked and went on a date with. But based on his profile, I don't think I'd be enough of a good girl for him. You know, not "Christian" enough.

A lot of the animosity towards me seemed to come from the fact that I'm better educated than most on that site (probably most in general).

That's probably the most insightful thing I've heard. Dating sites aren't known for their highly educated people. When they are it is usually the paid, executive type intro services because a. They are smart and have good careers and can afford it b. don't have time because they are smart and like to do a lot of things to keep that mind active. Why seek out somebody that is not going to appreciate a part of you that is probably pretty important? What about changing up your community involvement? If you are normally involved in music go to a book reading? Or hiking or something. The goal with meeting people is meeting new people. Everything I've read so far tells me you want authenticity otherwise why would you care if they made fun of you.... Just get the ONS and be done (I'm exaggerating crudely ). By design online dating sites just aren't authentic.

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[Perna]

I sometimes deliberately do a "unique" profile and use that to help weed out the people I don't want to know from those I do? I put a silly picture on my resume once for jobs and sent it out; it was "my kind" of humor and I wanted to work for a company that would not be afraid of that. The job I got hired for with that resume was one of my favorite ever

I do plenty of things that aren't music related. Actually, I feel that I don't do enough stuff music-related, since that's where I should be making my money and I'm pretty much only playing for free at the moment.

The thing is that I only attract women. It's not I don't like women, but I really just want to be with a dude right now. And I have no idea why I seem to like the nice, shy, straight guys the most. Pretty much the sort of guys who wouldn't like me like that.

And besides, just because someone is intelligent and highly educated doesn't mean they make a good living or even have a job. I'm part of the highly educated poor (I'm still being supported by my parents so someday when I become even more highly educated, there may be a slim chance that I can get a job that would be relevant to my 7-10 years of college. But only a slim one and I probably won't be making anymore than what's average for my age group. Because the U.S. has absolutely no sense of value for music, writing, and the arts in general.

Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.

I do plenty of things that aren't music related. Actually, I feel that I don't do enough stuff music-related, since that's where I should be making my money and I'm pretty much only playing for free at the moment.

The thing is that I only attract women. It's not I don't like women, but I really just want to be with a dude right now. And I have no idea why I seem to like the nice, shy, straight guys the most. Pretty much the sort of guys who wouldn't like me like that.

The point is to get out of your comfort zone. If one doesn't work try something else. My example was just that.

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[cdnomore]

Hey, I read it all, I live in the Bay Area, so, to me people that don't identify with mainstream or accepted or labels of any kind are not the odd ones...no pun intended. No, it seems like its a lot more 'normal' for a lot of people to just sort of do their own thing, I knew someone like you who was looking at online dating for almost the same reasons, and she got really frustrated with it too.
Beleive me, my dear friend is fiery, brave, beautiful and a wild one, you can tell just by looking at her. But she had no luck with OLD because of the same kind of thing you mentioned, most people don't want to excersize their brain cells by having to look past the surface.
And her natural beauty isn't appreciated by the silly sites, do you know how many of those are hook-ups for paid for services? I was told by a guy that 90% of them are for 'mail-order' bride services, it was, he said, like they all used a profile with different pictures, and then switched it around. Not only was it hard to find a REAL woman on there, once you did you had to navigate around all the analytics of getting to know someone at all...
So looking at that evidence, it seems self-explanatory that an non stereotypical person, wwith above average intellegence, or education, would not fit into these types who KNOW that they are trolling for easy ego stroking by dancing some dance with a gorgeous mail order bride, who the picture may or may not be of...

I'm known real-life people who have met people online and are still with them. So it's not completely a hoax. My problem is that I'm not enough of a girl so I'll never be attractive enough to a guy.

Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.

My problem is that I'm not enough of a girl so I'll never be attractive enough to a guy.

Well I wouldn't say old is the best gauge for that statement.

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