Trust issues

I threatened to leave my 15 week pregnant girlfriend the other night, I had absolutely no intention of doing this, it was all for show because we'd had an arguement prior and I was angry, I wanted a reaction.
Her greatest fear is me walking out on her, because I packed some things and threatened it she now feels like Ive destroyed her trust because she thinks it could happen any time now.
I know I'm in the wrong, completely, Ive told her that, she's still with me but she said last night things could never be the same.
Is there any way I can get her to see it from my point of view, that I could never actually walk away???

Time and watching what you say is about the only thing that will help. You also might want to try couples counseling.

Please don't ever say that again unless you literally mean it! So yeah, firstly, don't ever say it again and secondly just give it time and also reassure her along the way.

We all have feelings and get angry,upset.sometimes some even want to intentionally hurt the other one because of their pain or to "teach the lesson".
One thing we have to realize ,words have immense power,they can destroy carefully built castle of trust in the matter of minutes, once out you can't bring them back,but only hope o correct the damage in time.I learned,that I have to be extremely careful in expressing my emotions ,in order to avoid creating further destruction(unless you really want to severe relationship with that person)
Nobody don't get positive reaction and effect from negative comment

Good luck

Really, it's only time and effort that will help her gain some trust back in you. And even then - she might lost trust in you quite quickly over more minor things.

Has she told you why/how it is that she can't trust you now? For me, personally, it would be a two-fold thing: 1, I would always be wondering when you were going to actually decide to leave and 2, it would show me that you were willing to manipulate me and hurt me to get what you wanted. I probably wouldn't stay because I would have absolutely zero trust or respect for the person. (I have really big trust issues). I would also feel like if I did the slightest thing that would upset them.. that it would tip them over and they'd leave me. So I would probably cut my losses.

She hasn't done that, so that is a good sign. You'll just have to be patient as she will likely get very upset with you over very little things - that tends to happen when you have no more trust in someone.

Keep in mind this isn't just about the two of you anymore. There's someone else involved that needs your love and support.

Did you know that a woman being stressed during her pregnancy can weaken the baby's immune system?

I would start couples counseling, if for no other reason, that to show you're committed. Second, get involved with the pregnancy and the life the three of you will have. Just don't be too pushy right now. She's gone into protection mode and she has every right to be in that place right now. Be kind, gentle, reassuring, and supportive. Wishing all three of you the best.

I posted this one but think I actually deleted it so if it is a duplicate I apologize. Best advice I can give you is to be there and reassure her that you are not leaving. Say it as often she needs to hear and for as long as she needs to. My husband and I have been together for 23 years and married 20 this fall. The only people that know about it (besides my providers) are my husband and best friend. My husband still reassures me frequently that he isn't going anywhere. I have talked to my best friend about my fears of hubby leaving and she tells me that she has talked to him when I wasn't there and she knows for a fact that he is there forever.

Also remember this is a very emotional time for her with all the hormones out of wack. Plus a lot of women get scared and old wounds may be opened. So if she think you might leave her, that only adds to the fear.

My advice? Don't say things you don't mean. You had an argument and you wanted to hurt her. You did - choosing to do the very thing she is most afraid of. I would suggest you learn more productive ways to handle conflict. Counseling is a VERY good idea. How will you be a good parent if you continue to act so childish?

I'm afraid you may have crossed a line. In the back of her mind she will be thinking that you're not all in. You have made her feel insecure about your commitment to her and the baby resulting in a loss of trust. Huge thing to get back. Good luck to you and hope you've learned your lesson.

I can relate from the side of being the person that threatens to leave all the time. I will have to say that nothing good comes of it. 3+ years in and we are extremely insecure and very negative towards each other. Compassion and understanding are gone. Don't follow down that road.