Need Help For Friend With Disturbed ex BF

Hi Everyone

I'm not very good at psychiatry so I don't know where to post this. Long story made short is I have a female friend who had an online bf of several years A few months ago he broke up with her for another girl. Lately tho he's been exposing himself at all hours to my friend on VOIP and phone. He also texts her things like his masturbation episodes on his PC and how he masturbates while talking to his gf when he talks to her and does other things with her online. He's a cyber sex enthusiast as his new girl. My girlfriend says he's just enjoying playing two women at the same time. I say he sounds like a sex addict. I can't imagine any woman even an ex finding this behavior acceptable She doesn't seem to mind it tho Last night I thought she sounded like she was taking an important step when she said she was going to ask him what he thought he was doing by flashing her while still being in a relationship with this new girl. I really care about this girl but I don't know what else to say to her about this ex of hers I say he needs some kind of counseling and she needs to tell him to get counseling. And I kinda wish this female friend of mine wouldn't be so tolerant of this behavior because I think it's not healthy to accept it even from an ex.

If it's leaving your friend, uncomfortable, the only thing, that she can control, is her reactions and whether she continues to accept this behavior from him or not. If he eventually seeks out treatment, great, if not, at least your friends boundaries won't be violated, anymore. It's really up to her, to say stop, unless, this is what she likes...

She can, block his calls/contact; change her contact #; and certainly NOT respond.

Thats weired, how do people get so FAR out into left field? I just don't know, you can only help your friend by giving a suggestion for herself, it seems like a really demeaning act to participate in, for everyone...but, you know, I'm kind of old fashioned, and I'd be totally mortified to have someone view me that way. It seems like this guy is the type to get people to do more and more outrageous things to turn them on, and too much is never enough. As long as he has willing participants, he's going to keep going and who knows if they're stuff was accessed by OTHERS, has she ever thought that this stuff can be veiwed by other people? Maybe doing a little digging around and research into it can help to give your friend some education into the truth of these things. Offer it, and then let her make up her own mind...be ready to be a shoulder to cry on when she realizes this doesn't make her special, and how easily he will go on to do other things and other women.
Good luck

i would say that he is acting in scary - criminal actions.

I would literally contact the police.

Thank you all very much for your replies I found them very helpful esp Useless Me's going to the police I will suggest that to her