[myprescriber]

...for the second time. Before our first relationship only lasted 2 weeks. This time it's been over a month...but I'm so afraid. Sometimes I feel like breaking up with him so he won't dump me first.

I confessed to him that I feel useless in the relationship. I'm not the typical girlfriend, where I'm extremely beautiful, a great cook, and in school, with an active lifestyle. I'm about 80 lbs overweight, a college dropout, with no job, depression, and no license to even drive. He said that he's not doing anything with his life either, because he is a high school dropout, but I think he's at least got a job, a car, and he wants to better himself. But I'm constantly changing my mind about what I want...making me an inconsistent and indecisive person.

Since I confessed to him, he's been quiet over the phone and he ended our late night conversation early...he wasn't in the mood to talk anymore. Did I ruin it?

Also, when I say "i love you"...sometimes he says "me too". Does that mean he doesn't?

I'm sorry for the babbling...but I overthink and sometimes I feel as if that's my gut feeling. Am I just thinking too much? :/ Am I just being crazy? I'm always open to advice...even of harsh nature....thank you for reading...

[manwithnofriends]

I don't think it's ruined. Keep the contact line(s) open. He might offer you something you never thought of

[angui43]

I find myself in a similar situation of "am I overthinking" these small changes and distance, or is my gut feeling just preparing me for the break up. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and we have a six month old baby. The past few weeks he has been distant and gets overly angry when I speak of my feelings. I am seeing my therapist for my codependency and when I share with him my progress and what I am dealing with, he seems frustrated that I just can't snap out of that way of thinking. Just yesterday he shared that he wants to be with me but the way I think he just can't do it. I have kept quiet of my feelings this past week and I just let him be. We live together but the past few days we haven't been talking and he tries to avoid me altogether. And with my codependent habits I am feeling really anxious and this situation is just consuming me. I am unsure of what is going to happen just like you, but just know you are not the only one and I wish you the best outcome.

[myprescriber]

Originally Posted by manwithnofriends

I don't think it's ruined. Keep the contact line(s) open. He might offer you something you never thought of

Thank you, I will do that.

[Fuzzybear]