[reagan]

Curious about others thoughts on the level of transparency in a marriage. Would you think anything of reading your souses text messages?

I am of the mind that if my wife didn't care if I read her text, then I probably wouldn't care to read them but if she was particularly adverse to me reading them then I would absolutely want to see them. Further, if I walked in on my wife reading my text or email, I wouldn't give to flips about it. I can't imagine I would even ask why they were reading them, other than to see if they just like being bored!

Do you ever look at your spouses text? Do you/would you care if they read yours?

Particularly, if you knew that your spouse regularly text with one or more of their opposite sex friends, would you want to see what they talk about?

I tend to think that texting with opposite sex friend is fine, as long as there is never any exchanges that you wouldn't want your spouse to see. If you are sending text that you would not want your spouse to see...well that's inappropriate, and potentially boarders on cheating.

Curious to see others thoughts.

[throughthefog]

This is interesting, I have recently been wanting to check my partners texts as he has become very protective of his phone, keeps it on silent, does not let it leave his side and will be texting away but as soon as I walk in he starts deleting texts. I have checked his phone and found photos of girls from prior to our relationship commencing, he did delete them after I confronted him but has since had a go at me for invading his privacy, the way I see it is you shouldn't have anything to hide and if you do there is a problem.

I couldn't care less if he checks my phone, social media or whatever, i am loyal, open and honest and have no secrets, I wish I could say the same for him.

In my experience if you are raising this question and have any doubt then go with your gut feeling.

[Middlemarcher]

I grew up with parents who really invaded my privacy, and a mother with serious boundary issues, so I'm adamant about giving my significant other privacy when it comes to phone, e-mail, etc. I can't imagine checking or wanting to check my SO's messages or e-mail. I've never been with someone who wanted to see mine, either, but if I was, that'd be a huge problem for me. Like, a relationship-ending problem. I'm not doing anything wrong, but I don't want my privacy invaded, either.

[Psnoodle]

This is my think....no surprises...no secrets....my stuff is an open book for my man to read if he wants too.

It should be a two way street that you both agree on.

I also think if someone communicates to their partner all their pro/coins, boundaries, etc.. and says..I got some secrets I'm keeping inside my head so imma go out on a limb and share with you the reasons I need privacy. Whatever the reason is, hopefully your partner will accept it.

Sent from my DROID RAZR HD using Tapatalk