[Twistedbutterfly]

Im completely in love with this girl and I have been for around two years. Recently I confessed my feelings to her and I found out that they were mutual. But she's with someone else that she also loves dearly. The person she's with found out about my feelings for her and its screwing with their relationship. I hate myself for doing that but I love her so much. So much that not being with her is killing me slowly. I don't know how much more i can take of it...I really don't know what to do. I'm lost

[LateLadyLulu]

Hi there

This is a tough one, what is wonderful is that the feeling of love is reciprocated, obviously this means that she has a decision to make.
The best thing you can do, is be there to support her if her current relationship breaks down.
Make sure you are supported also, that you keep busy and find things to occupy your time, waiting is the hardest I think.
Let her know you care, and want to help, but also that you will wait patiently.
For women, the knowledge that you are there would be enough, knowing that you can wait, that you believe she is worth the wait.

I hope this has helped, i am sorry that you feel lost, but this could take a little time...
Hoping for the very best outcome for you!

I had feelings also for someone who was taken. I agree with LateLadyLulu; finding things to occupy yourself with helps. Eventually for me it passed, but it sounds like you're really in love with her, so just be there for her to help her through anything she might be going through right now. Whatever's supposed to happen that is best for the both of you will happen.

[niceguy]

If you really want her. Go for it. Forget the other person, if it is real love (and only if its real love)-no one should stand in your way. Also, sorry guys, but to think waiting it out and just being a friend while her indecision runs rampant, is a waste of his time. She will not leave the boyf and he will move into the friends zone for good or worse. At fourteen, i have to wonder if this is really love- but hey after that twilight crap, it's no wonder everyone thinks a teen can be in love.

Just be sure, if you get her it is for the right reasons, not some ego boost that is all for the thrill of the chase. Finally, remember, if it is meant to be- it will be. Somehow...

you are infatuated. you are NOT in love. two very different things.