[The Fox & the Hound]

Ok... So, when I am either depressed, irritable,or anger, I take it out my friend. My friend is getting impatient,annoyed,starting to not want to be friend. Should I tell her why I am treating like this? Because of my depression?

She is my BF, & she won't tell anyone so I trust her, but I am still terrified to tell her.

I actually want to tell her I am suicidal...but I don't know if I should.

i think it would be not only wise......... but FAIR too.

s/he deserves to know why you act the way you do.

[Erti]

From what you described I don't see why not.

[The Fox & the Hound]

Ok, thanks. She is a she.

Ok...So, HOW should I tell her?

[danvb]

I think it would be a good thing to do when the time is right... along with a detailed explanation of what depression is and what causes it. But it isn't exactly something you just want to blurt out for no apparent reason. It's best if you can work it into a relevant conversation. Also, try not to make it sound like an excuse for treating her badly... I think that explaining it as the reason you've been treating her as you have, along with an apology is a good way to go. That's what I've done in the past! But I don't think it's a very good idea if it sounds like an excuse that you're using to justify yourself and let yourself off the hook for your actions.

Dan

[ben12345]

I think it would be better to tell her...then at least she can help and understand you.

[marie4u]

Originally Posted by The Fox & the Hound

Ok... So, when I am either depressed, irritable,or anger, I take it out my friend. My friend is getting impatient,annoyed,starting to not want to be friend. Should I tell her why I am treating like this? Because of my depression?

She is my BF, & she won't tell anyone so I trust her, but I am still terrified to tell her.

I actually want to tell her I am suicidal...but I don't know if I should.

there is solution to every problem. dont suicide first of all. and secondly friends are to share feelings of your own, so tell her every thing.

I don't think it would be a good idea to tell her about the suicide at first. It is a heavy load and it can make her feel her emotions are being manipulated, right or wrong. You could tell her that later on if it seems appropriate.

The biggest thing is a friend doesn't want to feel helpless about helping their friend in distress. When you explain this maybe be prepared to tell her what the best thing to do is when you are in one of these moods or on the verge of treating her badly. Should she walk away and come back later? Leave you alone? Use a key phrase to bring you back? These are just examples. Your needs are unique.

The other thing is to educate and tell her how it makes you feel to be going through this. It is most important for her to know it isn't something you asked for and you are getting help. Save the nitty gritty stuff for websites and concentrate on how it affects you.

Then give her a chance to tell you what she thinks. Ask questions. She may need time to sit with it. Let her know that it is perfectly ok. Some people have a really difficult time with this. I'll be honest. She may not be able to handle it. But it sounds like you are having troubles already and if you care about her I think it is the right thing to do. If she decides to stick around it will make your friendship stronger.

I wrote a letter like this and read it to my t group.

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