Almost 30 and family is pushing me into marriage

Politicians marry to have a wife by their side. I'm not sure that I'm attracted to men although some of them seem ok...I'm almost 30 and my family is very tired of me being alone so they encouraged me to marry a senior citizen who would leave me his assets in his will or to marry a guy and stay married five years and then live off the alimony. My mom was not able to have children after age 34 and most people stop having children in their 30s. Well that's almost me now. 30 and unmarried. So I don't have many chances right? I should just marry the rich old senior citizen now right? Don't forget that I'm only slightly attracted to men anyway...If I weight four more years I probably won't be able to have children at all like my mom wasn't at that age anymore. So should I just marry Mr. Joe average? I'm thinking it would be easy to get married to a super religious dude because most of them are seriously looking at marriage.

Ouch! I personally wouldn't do it. After three marriages, I've learned if it's not right, you'll be miserable. That's terrible that your family is pressuring you like that.

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I don't like the idea either. A bad marriage is worse than no marriage at all, and it's not fair to marry a guy if you don't love him, in my opinion.

I didn't marry until I was 33 and had no trouble conceiving. I have two wonderful kids and a great husband.

Shame on them for pushing you on this issue.

Yikes! I saw the heading and my first thought was... They do arranged marriages in India quite successfully. But there the parents are very careful about making sure they are compatible. This is something very different. You don't have to get married to have children. It's nice but not required. Having healthy children in your 40's is not at all uncommon anymore. You need to know why your mother couldn't have more children. Perhaps it isn't hereditary or maybe they have treatments. I really wouldn't assume. And if you don't know if you want to spend your life with any man... Geez what a miserable situation that would be! Believe me that senior citizen could live a lot longer than you anticipate. Gosh... The thought leaves me cold.

"I'm thinking it would be easy to get married to a super religious dude because most of them are seriously looking at marriage."

Screw that. Find an immigrant. Then it could be a pure business relationship. Have the kid and get divorced. I'm KIDDING! Both your "options" lock you into something for a very long time. Potentially for life. Please don't waste your life like that.

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Do you realize that there are health risks of conceiving a child with an old father? Higher incidence of autism, etc.

Marriage to a Canadian immigrant would be best since it's the country closest to ours. A Canuck looking to turn in his hockey puck. Thank you all so much for reminding me I'm not old and telling me it's OK to be sort of gay. I'll probably find a best friend and marry him. I've got plenty of time...

Do you want to have children? You don't have to get married or have kids if you don't want to, especially if you are not that interested in men.

I would not marry a senior citizen for his money. He could get sick at 70 and live until 90 - that's twenty years of you playing nurse. All of his money could be gone by that time, paying for his medical care. You could be left alone at 50 years old, with no money, no husband, and no job skills.