cut long story short, my bf is away in london to see his girl/ lad mates..
he said he didnt wan tme thee as he didnt want the responsbility of me being happy. las two times ive met them all as couples n that, i was pregnant nd unfortunately had a miscarriage , these didnt know that n just thought i was being sick etc for attention or something. anyway, last night he calls me at 10pm to tll me he misses me n goodnight etc. n his girl mate grabs the phone asking why i aint there. i didnt know how to react. n now i cant stop thinking about it nd why do i feel the only way il be happy is if he tells me heregrets not takin me ? i feel so unworthy and if he loved me really then why is he doing this? xxxxxx and hw do i tll him how i feel without looking like a jealous raving loony???/

help advice would be gratefully received xxx

[River11]

Hey there. For what it's worth, I don't think it's at all loony that you feel the way you do. Quite understandable, as is the quandary that you're in. Probably not constructive to try to get any of that across to him atm, though.
Can't say as to whether his wanting to not take you was done with love or not, but would suggest you'll know after he's returned?
Sorry I can't offer anything more helpful than that (not in the best space right now), but I'm sure others will do so before top long.
Sorry for your miscarriage and that you had to feel that you looked like an attention-seeker while you were in such pain. May you soon have happier times

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thank you so much for replying. we;ll this morning hes txted me that hes sorry i feel taht way n he said he will atke me next time. i just duno how to let go. xxxx hope u feel better soon too xxx

[River11]

Thanks for that, muaythailady. I guess I'm a bit better, but that's partly the numbness (handy thing, sometimes).
That's so good that to hear, that he was able to 'hear' how you felt and respond well.

I know it's hard when hurt feelings get such a hold and you end up obsessed with what you need to be moving on from ... I hope the suggestions in the replies to the other thread are helpful to you. I've been finding it important and helpful to keep pushing away the tragedy narrative that goes on in my mind when I'm feeling hurt, and replace with awareness/thoughts/pictures/memories that I feel good about. If I'm not able to do that, I'll read or watch something - anything to keep my mind from going in the crazy circles that drag my emotions and sanity down.
Hope it feels better for you soon xx

Thanks for your help River. I guess I can only try eh xxxx