Codependent?

My therapist has recently started calling me codependent, and I'm baffled. I've been in therapy on and off for many years and have never heard that. At one point I was in a codependent relationship (12 years ago), but nothing like that since. I feel I have appropriate boundaries with my boyfriend, my friend, and my children. Is it because I have low self esteem from a childhood of abuse that my t says this? So confused!

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being co-dependent is needing someone to be happy. u depend on someone for it. here are the symptoms Symptoms of Codependency | Psych Central tc

Well, that doesn't fit me at ALL. I'm perfectly happy alone!

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independently, codependent?

what was the context?

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u dont need to please people for them to like u? u dont need people approval? ur not submissive? put other people stuff in front of urs? if not than ur T is nuts lol

I actually think I tend to be a little selfish. This is my first relationship in over four years (we've been together a year and a half), and it seems fairly balanced. I guess the only time I can be codependent is in my relationships with bosses. But even though I may have codependent tendencies in the workplace, does that mean I need the whole label?

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ur relationship with boss is dif from a personal one. what do u mean by codependency in that situation?

I am very submissive and base my self esteem on how well I perform at work. VERY codependent in work situations! Which is why I had a nervous breakdown in May and haven't been able to work since then.

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oh than shes right...

Darn it. Lol Another label! At least I'm not like that in my personal relationships. :-)

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lol as my T says u shouldnt care about labels but about symptoms. did u start working on it in sessions?? and yeah is really good u don do it in personal relationships. however, a job is also big part of our lives so this prob should be addressed ASAP.

Definitely working on it in sessions, but she wants me to attend CODA meetings. I'm a very strong introvert, and just the thought of sharing myself in a group sounds unpleasant and exhausting.

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Oh, and I'm going to start volunteering at an animal shelter Saturday as part of my therapy. :-)

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i didnt know there was CODA meetings. well i think even when we are not introverts is a bit unpleasant, specially in beginning. maybe can be beneficial to u in many levels. try and if u dont think is good for u find other ways with ur T.