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Mar 01, 2014, 06:55 PM
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I've been hurt a lot in the past year. A nasty breakup followed by torn friendships have been particularly painful. At times I was very emotionally dependent, now I'm the opposite. My trust is nonexistent. I don't have any desire for a relationship or marriage, ever. I don't want kids. It's damaging the sense of future I used to have. Even friendships, I don't know who really are my friends anymore. I'm not really close to anyone. And I don't allow myself to be. When people try to talk emotionally with me I push them away. I become cold and distant... It's just not how I once was. I'm wounded, and I'm trying to stuff the hurt under all these layers of composure. I don't know when this guard of safety will turn to loneliness, or if it ever will.
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Mar 01, 2014, 10:28 PM
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It seems that this is an opportunity for you to reflect on aspects of various kinds of relationships - as these have different levels of connection, caring, trust, commitment, etc. Sometimes a person wants to have a close attachment with someone, or sometimes a person wants friendship, or maybe just acquaintance. What one person wants, might not quite fit with what another person wants from the relationship. So - how do people match? Perhaps it's helpful to reflect on what's been learned from this past year of breakup and disrupted friendship, and then consider how to create a happier future for yourself - a future in which you can build the kinds of friendships and other relationships that are meaningful and comfortable for you. If you find yourself feeling lonely - it's valuable to recognize this. And to realize that there are many ways to counter the loneliness, many ways to find/be with other people.
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Mar 02, 2014, 10:09 AM
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How long was the relationship, that ended?
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Mar 02, 2014, 09:19 PM
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I am getting the same way. I have a couple of relationships where I trust, but I've lost a lot of family and so called friends. Now I prefer solitude over pain.
Sometimes I think I just never learned how to discern the right people to pour into, and of course, you don't get to pick your family. HourHand |
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