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Mar 05, 2014, 01:24 PM
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Hello, I have a serious question. I have been dating a male for about 11 months now. We live together as well, we have been living together for 3 months and before that I stayed over on the weekends. I have decided I no longer want to be with this male due to the way he treats me. Its nothing bad, just the way he talks and acts towards me nothing violent. The only issue is I am afraid for my 3 year old son who knows him. We tuck my son in at night together, and do lots of family stuff. I dont want to leave the relationship because I am afraid I will hurt my son. But I know this wont last through a marriage. help? What kind of effects might this have on my son? What can I do to help?
note: My son is only mine, his real father is not in the picture. I thank you guys in advance for help. |
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Mar 05, 2014, 02:27 PM
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Hey Gracie Your son will be better off seeing you happy that to realize you are being treated poorly. If and when you leave I would continue with tucking your son in and make it a special time for you and him.
It would probably be wise to spend more time with a man and find out how he will treat you before introducing your son to someone in the future, or especially moving in with a man. If you do this you will not have to worry about your son being hurt! Good Luck
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Mar 05, 2014, 03:42 PM
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I agree with Curley -- children really pick up on tension between two people who aren't getting along. Your son could end up happier even though he misses your boyfriend for a while. He's still young and may get over it quickly, too.
It's great that you figured this out before getting married. Good luck. |
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Mar 05, 2014, 05:36 PM
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I agree that you need to end it asap. Your son is still young and I bet he'll stop asking about this man in less than a month. Not judging you, but please don't get into another relationship immediately and if you do, don't introduce him to your son until you are very certain he is the right man for you. Good luck and please keep us posted.
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Mar 05, 2014, 08:13 PM
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I totally agree with the other poster. End it now and although your son may be upset for a few days he will soon forget about your boyfriend. Also take the advice that you should be 100% sure about a man before involving your precious son in the relationship. You are all he has and need to stay safe and happy for his sake.
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Mar 05, 2014, 08:45 PM
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A friend put it best, is this a guy you want your son to be when he grows up? Some times we only look at what is directly in front of us and we don't see how it effects the future.
Other then that I agree with everyone else. Your son will emotionally heal and be happy your happy. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk |
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