Got dumped out of the blue

2 weeks ago, I got dumped by my boyfriend of almost 1 year. I was so crazy in love. I'm almost 18 and he's 19. We had a great, amazing almost perfect relationship. He always treated me right and we had alot of fun. Then one day he says hes not in love with me anymore and he doesn't know why. He said he can't imagine having a future with me anymore. I don't know what went wrong. I needed him and he left me. I don't even think he cares anymore how much he hurt me. I feel so devastated. There were no signs that he felt that way. He told me he didn't cheat and he's very honest so I believed him. He used to always tell me he was in love with me and that he loved me. I don't know how that could change so suddenly. I'm still crying about this 2 weeks later and he's never coming back and he'll never talk to me again. How could someone go from being so loving to being cold and leaving me? I feel like i'll never find something or someone like that again in my life. I feel so worthless if he could just throw me away like that. I miss him and everything we used to do together. How do I move on? Will I ever move on and be happy?

From your and his age, I'm going to assume that you two are fresh out of high school.
Believe it or not, people change after high school. I've experienced it. My baby sister, who I told this same advice to, experienced it. Two good friends that were dating went through it after high school... Don't take it out on yourself. It's not you. He's changing, his own thoughts are forming. Take this time to get to know yourself too.

Hi there--

You will move on and you will find someone else and be happy. You just can't know it or feel it right now since all of this is brand new and you are still grieving the relationship you had.

Different people deal with relationships ending in varying ways. Some are in mourning and need to know the hows and whys of it (this is sometimes the person who is broken up with), while others are just all right with what they think is a clean break.

And you may not want to hear it now, but you'll find all sorts of people (me included) who had that one relationship when we were 17 or 18 that seemed like "the one." No matter how it ended, it stays with you.

You move on by making it through each day.Going to class or work and whatnot. Talking to your family and friends. And giving yourself time to heal before dating again. (I was so bad about that!)

He is a cruel guy to just blurt it out and disappear, without further ado. He didn't tell you that even though he no longer loves you, he will always cherish the memories of your time together, etc. Either he is cruel, and then sour grapes, or he is simply immature. Maybe twenty years later he will tell you how important you were in his life. If he is immature, but about to get better, oh well and what a shame, but his maturation can take a decade and you cannot put your life on hold. Again, if he is cruel and insensitive, then sour grapes.

one approach is to collect all mementos of the relationship, put them in a box and store the box out of sight. Archive or delete all digital mementos.

another approach is to spend time grieving, listening to music he likes, looking at your pictures together, etc., until you feel you have done enough to move on.

I agree with Confus3d. Just before my 21st birthday my boyfriend of 6 years dumped me. We were both changing. I was ready to start settling in and he was wanting to party with his single guy friends. He was going to propose to me in February but didn't and in the end left me for someone who was engaged to get married.

I say grieve for your loss. Because at this point you lost what you thought would be your future. It's hard to imagine that going away. But in the end remember to live. Even if it is a struggle find a friend and to go a movie.

In the end, what really helped me get over losing my ex was finding someone new. Out of the blue my husband walked into my life from a completely unexpected place. We were friends and just never stopped being around each other.

Sure it hurts that he left you like that. But I have been the other direction. My ex and I tried to stay friends and I always held out hope for us to be together again. My depression sunk deeper and deeper because I wasn't able to let go of him. Break ups are hard no matter how it happens. Treasure your fond memories with him, grieve the lose of the future and in time you will find a new path and possibly and even better future.