[henrydavidtherobot]

My boo thang and I had a tiff last weekend about him not respecting my time. It got complicated because he blew me off for family. So, if I say anything, it sounds like I'm trying to get between him and his family.

Last night, he was supposed to come stay with me (he lives out of town) after a concert. He said "after 10", so I assumed that meant shortly thereafter. Anyway, I called at 11 and he said that the show just got out and that he was going to hang with his fam for an indeterminate amount of time. I got annoyed and told him to give me a general frame so that I could plan my night. He got into this rant about how he's bad with time and overbooks and that's how he is and I have to accept that. I called him out for lacking consideration for my time, being selfish by expecting me to wait, and not caring about my feelings. He accused me of making things too serious, which is bull.

Anyway, he said he didn't know if he wanted to come over anymore but then changed his mind and said he would head over in 20. An hour later, he sent a text saying, "I'm drinking with my ma tonight. sorry." He then turned off his phone.

I feel so disrespected by him. I haven't bothered him and he hasn't contacted me, so I'm sure it's over. I didn't do anything wrong! If he hadn't made plans with me, then I wouldn't have cared how much time he spent with his fam. All I did was communicate my feelings kindly and tell him that it is not OK to disrespect me or my time.

I know I deserve better and that he is not the one and blah blah blah--but it doesn't matter. This hurts like Hell! So many guys are so nice for months and then suddenly huge jerks!!!! Everyone is getting into relationships and flings all of the time but me! I'm never attracted to people and whenever the rare occasion occurs that I am, it NEVER works out.

I am SO SICK of being single.

Do things that I enjoy, better myself Blah blah blah--I do! I'm a successful person.

Nothing is going well in my life and this is the one thing that brought me any joy. I have been crying ever since.

I seriosuly feel that I will never be happy because everyone is awful.

I don't know what o do. I can't stop crying. I am beautiful, smart, kind, interesting, and a good communicator. WHY THE **** IS THIS NOT ENOUGH?! The dullest and meanest people I know have better luck than me.

I can't do this anymore.

[SeekerOfLife]

Do you enjoy your own company? You do not have to be in a relationship to be happy. I have told many young ladies, "You need to decide to be happy whether you are single, or married."
You said you were sick of being single. I can tell you from personal experience that it is far worse to be married and lonely than it is to be single and lonely.
Learn to appreciate who you are. You do not need a man to make you happy. Oh, sure, male companionship can be a real blessing (with the right man). When the time is right, look for a man who will treat you like the jewel you are.

Well, I don't know about you seekersinking but I have the most fun when I'm with friends. I'm not that big on hanging out by myself. In fact I kind of disintegrate into a sad puddle because I gather energy from interacting with people. So my own company isn't that great of an option hahaha (oh extroversion why do you cause me pain sometimes).

But I also agree that you don't need a relationship. There is a good saying: Only get into a relationship when you're ready, not when you're lonely.

I've never really worried about that sort of thing since I would rather make lots of friends instead and hang out will all of them instead of one person. But if being in a relationship is that important to you I would suggest just trying to hang out with more guys. Usually once you're friends, in my experience anyways, they fall over their feet trying to ask you out.

[live2ski66]

Ok, I have to add some fun/a joke to this....
I have the best boyfriend, he knows exactly what to do. His name is B.O.B. The only thing I have to remember is to pick up the Energizer Bunny at the store regularly.
.....too cryptic? Battery Operated Boyfriend

[henrydavidtherobot]

I'm an introvert. I very much need/enjoy my own company. I also like bonding with people one on one, be it friend or sig other. However, Most of my friends have moved away and I've outgrown most of my other friends. They don't like to do what I like to do. It's been impossible to meet new friends. I honestly don't click with a ton of people. I find most people to be boring.

Most of my friends are guys. The problem with that is that they start to like you and that can get complicated.

I'm typically 100% OK with not being in a relationship. But not right now.