[redbandit]

I'm having a LOT of issues with my husband, some a bit too personal to get into. A main concern is that he's basically a pathological liar. He'll tell me what I want to hear . He's told me he had paid bills when he hasn't . He has no concept of a budget or the importance of credit scores. I am taking over paying all the bills now!
I'd probably just leave now if I could financially . But, also because of my faith, I believe divorce should only be considered in extreme circumstances .
Yes, I knew a little bit of this heading into the marriage I suppose. But we had separate finances before, if I had known his situation, I would have at the very least postponed the wedding .
He's a total slob, and leaves his junk and stuff everywhere . Never helps with the dog hardly ever. I come home from work and she usually is crying bcuz she needs water and/or food. I'm tired of feeling like I'm his mother, making sure he does stuff. I'm pretty sure he has adhd (I do as well ) and I think often our moods and bad habits clash.
I feel like he always puts his friends and his hobbies (most of which I'm not into) before me.
I've talked to him before about getting counseling, and he gave me his reasons why it wouldn't help.
Has anyone had any success with marriage counseling? I'd really appreciate any feedback, thanks!

[Webgoji]

Marriage counseling is going good for my wife and I. We've learned how to communicate with each other again and are working on un-learning some of the lazy habits we've developed over the years.

The key, I think, is to for both partners to understand that they have flaws that can be worked on and be dedicated to making changes to themselves for the betterment of their partner. For example, my wife is working on providing more attention and listening to my problems and issues, I'm working on understanding what she means correctly and being sure I also focus on the positives of my day.

I definitely think it would be a good idea. And you can tell him, it's not about waiting until there are really bad problems, but strengthening what you've already got. Marriage counseling isn't just about the last-ditch-effort before divorce, but can give you both a new perspective and techniques to get out of your ruts.

[redbandit]

Thanks, really appreciate your input! I'm glad counseling is going well for you guys
I think our first step is going to be taking this class about personal finances. That's where about 85% of our arguments come from; $.
It's not counseling, per se, I guess, but I think it'd Reaaallly help us. Most of the places that offer marriage counseling in my area only have hours available when my husband is at work . :/
Do you mind if I ask how often you and your wife go to counseling? I don't think he could get off work every week to go .