[so_punk_rock]

My friend is setting me up on a date with her boyfriend's twin brother. Technically this will be my first date. I just started going back to school and being somewhat social again and I'm gonna try to be a good sport about it. I find it hard to communicate with people sometimes. I would rather not have to hold a conversation for long periods of time with people. I can't imagine being close to another person, not even a boy that I actually like/or am attracted to. As soon as she heard that I was a 21 year old virgin she wanted to set me up on a date. I have always thought that one day I will get married and have kids. The idea seems nice......but when I'm not daydreaming and life is happening it's hard for me to be vulnerable with people. I don't mind telling people things about myself, but when people ask me deep questions like why have you never had a boyfriend?, I find it really hard to answer.

[pinkbutterfly]

you know what? I actually started dating my ex when I was 21. We got married when I was 22. I was a virgin until our honeymoon.

It's ok that is where you are. Don't let people try to push you into something you don't feel ready for. There's nothing wrong with being 21 and being a virgin. At all.

[so_punk_rock]

I think I'm gonna go out but I have to set some boundaries because I can be impulsive sometimes. I don't want to be groped or kissed but I can go for the conversation. I'm not sure how my date will feel about that but oh well, that is all I feel comfortable doing.

[growlithing]

I'm a 20 year old virgin who has never had a boyfriend, been on a date, or hooked up. If someone asks me why I am still a virgin (which happens), I simply say "I'm a virgin because I've never had sex yet" and leave it there. If they want to ask why or why I haven't been kissed, I just say I haven't found the right guy. All of which is true. It removes the emotional aspect of it but it answers the question and usually shuts people up

[Twigs92]

Originally Posted by so_punk_rock

My friend is setting me up on a date with her boyfriend's twin brother. Technically this will be my first date. I just started going back to school and being somewhat social again and I'm gonna try to be a good sport about it. I find it hard to communicate with people sometimes. I would rather not have to hold a conversation for long periods of time with people. I can't imagine being close to another person, not even a boy that I actually like/or am attracted to. As soon as she heard that I was a 21 year old virgin she wanted to set me up on a date. I have always thought that one day I will get married and have kids. The idea seems nice......but when I'm not daydreaming and life is happening it's hard for me to be vulnerable with people. I don't mind telling people things about myself, but when people ask me deep questions like why have you never had a boyfriend?, I find it really hard to answer.

I understand completely being nervous of being close to somone in real life rather than a day dream. I think though that as long as you remember what you're comfortable with, and don't push yourself you'll be okay. If you like the person enough it will be natural, even if at first you're a little scared, or hesitant. It could be that by opening up to someone, and telling them what you're like means having to really accept your own behaviours and attitudes, which could be what is holding you back, that's what it's like for me anyway. Either way good luck on the date, I'm sure you'll be fine .